What would you take from this

[Whoknows86]

Dating a guy I’m a single mum and he’s a single dad but only sees his dad eow due to distance...

We’ve been dating about two months haven’t met each other’s families yet. Any way he is coming to my town this weekend for a family gathering that will last until around 4...the plan was I was meeting him after and we were going for drinks (his ideas) this week though there has been a change of plan. He has said he now isn’t sure of the plans but he won’t be staying in my town now so we won’t be meeting here but I could maybe go to his for the evening but again he’s not 100% sure of the plans.

How would you feel about this we were together sat night and mon night this week and had a nice time...we aren’t bf/gf just dating but I don’t know whether to be a bit miffed about this weekend it’s kinda like he thinks he can make plans then change last minute. I did pull him on this but he then said oh well our plans weren’t definite....but to me they were

I would think you're over analysing it. It's not last minute.
He can't help the change of plans to his family gathering! he clearly hasnt said to his whole family, oh can we change plans for the gathering, because I'm too lazy to see whoknows86

Things change all the time!!! especially with family. even if you were properly dating him, I can't see how you could get pissed off with this!!

Was he meeting your family?

If he is awaiting confirmation of other people's plans he can't really make his own! The fact he is flexible is surely a good thing when you both have dc to juggle? He has said he still wants to see you so again a good thing - he could have just cancelled!!

also it's Wednesday! not Saturday morning!!

Wednesday for Saturday is not last minute.
Is he unsure of his plans because he doesn’t know what the rest of his day will involve? In which case it can’t really be helped.

I think you are taking it personally when it isn't meant that way at all. It sounds like the family gathering was his plan first and because it was convenient he wanted to spend extra time with you too.
Now his family plans have changed unfortunately that has a knock effect for you but his family was his plan first so he isn't going to bail on that to stick to your original plan.

Thanks mumsnetters I’m
New to all this again