Not responding to him so venting here...idiot!

[DextroDependant]

You might or might not remember my threads about breaking up with my ex prior to our holiday.
Anyway holiday with the kids was fab and uneventful, we came back and I had my double jaw surgery a few days later.

This is jaw surgery that has been planned the entire time I have know ex and we had discussed at great length the recovery process.

Well I have his number blocked as he continues to send texts to me and my sister which just get completely ignored, we don't reply at all. My blocked messages all go to a seperate little folder instead of my inbox. None of the texts are abusive but he is totally deluded!

Last night's text was - I have booked us a table in X city (busy city a train ride away) for next Friday as I remember you can eat soup by then. Xxx xxx

Now leaving aside for a minute that we aren't together, I haven't spoken to him or responded to him in anyway since he climbed through my Windows so why would he think we are going for dinner....

What has really pissed me off is - I have just had both jaws broken and plated back together. My face looks like a moomin. I am a patchwork of bruises from my chest to my eyes. I can't talk. I can only eat through a syringe with a towel around my neck to catch the drips. I slobber constantly.

Why would I want to risk going on a train to a busy city centre where I could get knocked to slurp soup through a syringe!!

Argh he is an idiot.

I am not responding to it at all but idiocy like that is hard to ignore hence me posting here.

It's not me is it??

Geez talk about being in denial...

I am usually loathe to jump on the mental illness bandwagon but surely that level of delusion is a sign that somethings not quite right??

I think he's hoping you will think 'awww, he remembered about my surgery'. He's not thinking about you at all, he's thinking about himself.

Surely the way to make me think that would be sending me a milkshake or something in the post .

It's always about him, honestly every text is how much HE misses me. How HE can't eat or sleep. How sad HE is.

If he doesn't stop hassling you I would actually go to the police (well, when you can talk, obv, unless your sister can do it on your behalf).

He climbed in through your fucking windows!?!?!?!

Jesus, I would have called the police there and then.

Are you not concerned?

Hope your recovery goes well.

The police have been involved, it's an on going issue and I have a marker against my landline and mobile to let them know I can't talk but they have to attend my address super fast.

I had new window locks and new door locks too.

As he's not being abusive the police can't act until they have enough messages to constitute harassment and then I can apply for a non mol.

I remember the windows thing. I think he does have issues, yes.

He sounds like he’s living in a fantasy world and has completely deluded himself that you will eventually get back with him. I would suggest one more message to him telling him to not contact you again or you will let the police know he is harassing you. After that carry on ignoring him completely. If he keeps messaging you and ignoring your wishes then i’d ask the police to tell him to stop. He sounds unhinged

Ah good, sounds like you're on top of it then. Yes, as suggested above, tell him that you are will not respond and are saving his messages as proof of harassment, then apply for non mol.

Are you in touch with his family/parents? Is it worth asking them to get him to stop/go to a GP? Or would that just cause more hassle? Actually, thinking about it, yes, he would probably see that as a sign that you 'care'. Ignore me!!! Hope he gets the message soon and leave you in peace.

can't you block him... ? how do you you still see the messages...

That text was sent a long time ago. I haven't responded once since then.

He actually stole my push bike which I realised after holiday and the police said well it's a civil matter, you were in a relationship and so you share things, how can we prove you didn't give it to him. Write it off. A £500 bike! That policeman came across as a twat but I took his advice and am still getting texts argh!

Apparently, Walter Mitty has a brother.......

@Gemini his number is blocked but the messages still go to a special blocked messages inbox, not my direct inbox. I am checking them regularly because the first hint of abuse I may finally get the police to act.

@Greenfingers his family are batshit too. His mum wanted me arrested for cancelling a contract aim that I took out in my name for him.
They also played along that he had been stabbed when actually he had less scratches than he would get from my cat.

I have an iphone6 and when I block someone.... they're dust... I've never heard of the 'special folder' thing.. that must be quite distressing... still being able to see the messages

Just wanted to wish you well in your recovery post surgery OP. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with your ex on top.

I have always been an Android user but that sounds like an excellent feature from Apple.

Thanks recovery is slow but I am feeling positive!!