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Ghosting, is it mainly men who do it? Have you done it and why?

32 replies

Ridiculouslyso · 25/04/2018 09:44

Seems to be such common, almost "acceptable" behaviour these days especially with OLD. Do women ghost as much as men, or are we more frequently the ghostees left wondering why?

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Gemini69 · 25/04/2018 19:54

the first known case of Ghosting Has to be in 1934.. 'Thelma Furness, Viscountess Furness' the then lover of Edward the then Prince of Wales... who on her return from America.. discovered she had been replaced by Wallis Simpson in the Edwards affections.. Hmm

Every attempt she made of communicating with him was blocked and ignored.... that's ghosting right Grin

UserV · 25/04/2018 19:56

WOW, I didn't know it went back that far! @gemini69 Shock

NotUmbongoUnchained · 25/04/2018 19:59

Yeah I have a few times.

Gemini69 · 25/04/2018 19:59

I'm reading the autobiography just now and it struck me... DAMMIT he totally Ghosted that woman Hmm

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fabulousfrumpyfeet · 25/04/2018 20:03

In my 'dating' days I found ghosting incredibly annoying as I felt I needed to know where I stood before I could move on, which would end up making me feel like I was chasing people, even if I wasn't that bothered. Don't think I explained that too well! Anyway I think it's spineless and I wouldn't do it.

meowimacat · 25/04/2018 20:16

If I'm honest I do it a lot and I'm a woman. Usually I do it if a guy has gotten too sexual, creepy or weird with me and I just don't like the vibe - that would normally always be prior to meeting. However, I've been on a couple of first dates where the guys have also been creepy/sexual throughout and I've decided blocking and ghosting is the best way. I could say something, but I feel it's pointless.

I ghost because it's easier than telling the reason why. Yes that's bad but you want honesty so I'm telling you. I did it recently with a guy who was overly keen on me (we never met), but he sent me some photos of him and he just looked totally different to his one picture on POF (and not attractive at all), and I just felt this need to run.

Usually I have a good reason why I do it. I would be upfront with a person if we had been on several dates and I felt it was going somewhere/they treated me with respect and deserved an answer.

I believe people mainly do it as it's easier than saying "I just don't fancy you" or "I've found someone else" or "I'm not ready for anything" etc..

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