Keeps creating stupid problems for us

[saxon]

I think I may need to end my relationship, I just don't understand my partner and I think he needs help but he doesnt see that anything is wrong.

He follows a band around and they mean everything to him but he is obsessed with one of the band members and it's causing so much trouble for us. About 6 years ago he sent an email to him for some reason really slagging him off and being horrible accusing him of being a wife beater etc, the bloke took it very seriously and threatened him with court action for slander, DP panicked and asked me to contact the bloke and apologise for him and tell him he was suffering from mental problems, I couldn't believe the mess he'd got himself into and what made it worse is that he couldn't tell me or explain why he'd done it. Thankfully the incident passed without consequence but every now and again he does something similar. Anyway this morning I was checking my email and I got an email from this bloke telling me to be home at a certain time so we could talk (he actually put it like that so obviously doesnt mean talk). I couldn't understand what he would want with me, turns out DP has been sending him threatning emails from MY address and when the bloke asked for our home address (to be precise: "you're a brave little shit arnt you? why don't you send me your address so you can speak to me face to face") and he actually went and gave him it.

What upsets me the most is that he's done it knowing full well that he will be out when/if he comes around. I sent an email back explaining that my account has been used without my knowledge but have had no responce, this could mean he's either a) just trying to frighten us or b) on his way. Knowing what this bloke is supposedly like I'd say it was more likely b.

The kids are at school, I can't get in touch with DP, I feel like just walking out. What the hell is wrong with him that he purposely creates these kinds of problems for us??

I don't even know if I should call the police, I don't think they'd take it seriously until he's actually here. If he does come I don't know what to say to him, whether he will even stop and wait for an explanation

He says he will be seeing us soon, have text DP and told him that if he isnt back here when he comes I will be giving him his work address.

I told the guy it would deter him more to get the police involved, by coming after him he is giving him the attention he wants, he just replied "some people like to learn the hard way"

Ok Saxon. Phone the police. You have a bloke on the way over who is threatening violence. The reasons and provocation are less important at the moment than than the fact that he is threatening to "teach you the hard way".

You can explain to the police the whole situation when they get to you. Tell them it's urgent.

Oh...

Agree call the police, and good luck, remember you have done nothing wrong, hugs.

Saxon,

This man should not confront your partner i.e his stalker under any circumstances. Your partner will not "learn the hard way" and this man is mistaken and misguided to think that he will.

Enough of these two though because they seem to be "enjoying" these games, where are you in all this?. What are you going to do, you cannot continue to live with this in your life as well as that of your children?. You cannot continue to enable your partner because he will ultimately drag you and your children down with him and blight your lives.

You need police involvement and now.

Can you get a friend or family member around to be with you in case the police dont get there as soon as you need to?

If i was you i would probably be tempted to go to a neighbours or sit in my car down the road to keep an eye on the house in case you get any "visitors", you would feel safer and could hide while knowing if anyone had come yet...otherwise my imagination would run riot.

Bloody hell Saxon, call the police! And don't be there - go out, go to a friend's, anything. And do get out of this relationship!

seems like they're both rather enjoying the drama of all this - you and your children must not be caught in the middle.
Got to go home now - will check on you tomorrow - good luck and take very good care of yourself - dp can take care of himself.

god what a horrible situation to be in, keep out of the house and think twice about letting your dp back in the house at all, he needs help.

This is a little bizarre.
Are you a name-changer saxon? Or just new on here today?

how did it go? are you alright?

how did things go?