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Pregant and connect it to what he done

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Starfamxx · 24/04/2018 20:04

So I’m 4 months pregnant but to go back I found out in January that my partner had been messaging someone else really inappropriate things they both knew each other from the past and it completely broke my heart I confronted him and he admitted it straight away, messaged the person saying how he shouldn’t have messaged them and how much he loved me and that he’s the happiest he’s ever been (which I know your probably all thinking I had mug written all over me) but I decided to forgive him because I genuinely believe it was a mistake and that he would never do it again and that it made him realise what he had to lose but anyway I was so devastated and feel as if I will never know the true extent of what was said or what happend and then a week or so later while the emotions of all that were still so raw I found out I was pregnant but 4 months on I feel so low and I connect what happend with my partner to this pregnancy because it was all kind of rolled in to one time frame/emotional rollercoaster I am happy about the pregnancy and I want this little baby so much but my heart is so heavy because I just connect the two! Has anyone been through anything similar? How did you over come it? My partner can tell I am low because I am usually a really bubbly positive person and keeps asking what’s wrong and I don’t know if I should just be honest or not because I am just trying so hard to move on from it for everyone’s sake

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userabcname · 25/04/2018 09:09

Hi OP, so sorry to hear you're feeling down. Pregnancy should be such an exciting time, how shit of your partner to ruin that for you. I haven't been through this personally but I would say, first of all, do you still want to be in this relationship? Have you lost your trust in your partner / worried he will do it again? How has he been since with regards to supporting you during pregnancy? I think you need to have a serious discussion with him. You need to address what happened before and how you see the relationship moving forwards. If you are going to forgive him then he needs to earn your trust back and you need to find a way to move on feeling happier.

Also, if you are generally feeling very down then please keep an eye on yourself. Speak to your midwife or GP if you think you could be developing antenatal depression so that you can get some support.

Best of luck and congratulations on the pregnancy.

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