DH and I are going to be separating. He has been horrible, domineering, possibly even emotionally abusive to me for years now (though I am only just fully realising it now)
We have been married for about 5 & a half years though have been together since school age (15 years). We have two children, one primary age and one pre school age.
He had an affair last year, said he wanted to try to see if we could work it out (though was never actually that apologetic about the whole thing), we went to Relate, I thought things were getting better and then I found out he has been on dating sites and was taking someone out whilst I was away with the children. He’s pretty much followed the exact trajectory of arsehole narcissistic bastard. I am a ‘try-to-keep-the-peace-er’ and he has completely taken advantage of me.
We jointly own the home, we have no savings, he is a very good earner (though likes to really splash the cash so we actually have a small amount of debt) but I took redundancy when expecting number 2 and have been a sahm since.
Could anyone share any advice about what to expect (both emotionally as well as actual eg financial expectations). I feel like i’m about to step into a world that o know absolutely nothing about and that feels dangerous.