Hand hold - dating related

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Feeling really rubbish after yet another dating letdown. Late 20s and been using online dating for few years but it seems no luck. Yet another one has decided after a few weeks of dating and contact to give me silent treatment for last 72 hours. I’m just feeling where do people get off ignoring other people! Where did manners go to tell someone it just isn’t working/ you aren’t interested etc. Instead it seems all the men my age think that not replying for weeks then acting like nothing happened is acceptable.

Rant over just need a hand hold as it’s really making me lose faith in men and also in myself!

I'm late 20s too and just wanted.to say I know where you are coming from!! It's so rude isn't it!!
Maybe make up an excuse rather than point blank ignoring you.
I had this happen to me a couple of weeks back. He seems really keen and then all of a sudden ignored me. He had done this before and then a month later pop up like everything was fine

Well that’s reassuring I was starting to think it was just me they reserved this type of nastiness for! No seriously I’m sorry you had to go through it too as it’s not pleasant. I know I’ll be fine but this is going to be a tough evening as it really hurts ones ego when it’s quite clear they are not interested

Yep it's rubbish. Almost feel like giving up with the OLD but then I think I won't meet anyone any where else as I'm a single parent to a toddler and can't go out much. Feels like a catch 22!

Late 20’s WTF, go out and meet people for real. It’s worked for centuries, you can spot the yahoos from a mile.

Go out and meet someone

It's not the 80's/90's anymore, we now rely heavily on OLD as we don't spend our lives in pubs anymore.

I can tell you, I've only met ONE potential "love interest" in person in 10 years & im 28!

I'm now a single mum to a toddler like a PP, so going out and meeting someone is a no go.

Easier said than done I reckon

I'm recently out of a relationship and not ready for that but it feels me with dread

I'm in my 30's and I honestly believe it's much harder to meet people now a days

This ghosting issue scares me most

100% understand where you are coming in from!

I’m on the edge all the time, I know that sounds dramatic but I’m convinced they will fall off the face of the earth at any point. How has it come to this?

Urgh - just wanted to say I feel your pain!

Dr Morbius where did it say I wasn’t going out and meeting people as well?! Honestly I didn’t ask to be berated I was simply looking for support from others who maybe could understand. Why you felt need to reply with such close minded nastiness is shocking? Surely if you don’t have anything helpful to say you don’t reply to a thread.

Ladies - these sort of threads pop up often. This isn’t a new problem and it seems to be the way many men behave on OLD.

So - first - it’s not personal and says nothing about you. It’s probably just enabled by the anonymity of the technology and ease to hide, rather than confront.

Second - there are other men out there! Men move on; you move on. If things aren’t working for one party in the relationship - better to find that out early and not waste time.

Finally - yes - other women will agre with you that it’s a crappy behaviour but that won’t change anything.
It’s what happens these days. Recognising that it’s that - and taking things slowly in the beginning - not overinvesting emotionally - will save future heart break.

Oh, the good old days of dating in person....

I’m in my 40s and it’s happened to me too (with men my own age). It sadly seems nowadays that ghosting is an acceptable way of ‘breaking up’ with someone.

I agree it’s not easy to meet someone IRL. Ok of course at my age i’m less likely to get chatted up in bars but even from just observing the younger ones I notice that people just don’t get talking in bars and stuff like they used to when I was young. Because everyone does OLD now no one makes the effort when people are out and about.

Ghosting sadly happens in all agegroups.

Fine after maybe 2 -3 dates but not fine after a long period of dating and I don't think it's acceptable if you've slept together- people should man up & admit it if things aren't working for them. IMO.

I go out to bars sometimes, I look young for 41 but still don't get chatted up much - it happens very occasionally.

I think that when men are out in groups they're generally concentrating on getting as drunk as possible & they need a LOT of confidence/ encouragement to talk to a strange woman, OLD is easier in that respect.

It's almost impossible to meet people in bars any more. I'm not sure if we've lost the ability to do it, or everyone is too worried about being accused of unwanted advances. At least with OLD you know the other person is looking and might be willing to meet you.

In any case, ghosting seems to be the norm as well. I'm mid 40s and it's happened to me or my friends several times.