I’m straight but fancy a woman ..am I gay?

[Pippaxxe44]

I’m in my 30s and have always found men attractive and had relationships with men.
About 2 years a friend introduced me to a woman and we had a few nights out together (3 of us) she is gay.
I started to like being around her and glancing at her and wondering if she glanced at me.
We did have a flirt (I think) but she knows I’m straight.
Anyway I’ve been thinking about her a lot lately.
Am I gay?
Would you do anything about it or say anything?

Well you’re not gay if you find men and women sexually attractive, you’re bi.

If you’re single and so is she, there’s no harm in asking her for a drink/coffee. I wouldn’t put any pressure on it though, just see how she responds.

That’s the weird thing I’m not sure I find her sexually attractive or just like her.
If that makes any sense what so ever.
I don’t even know

Would you like to go to bed with her? That should answer the question of whether you see her as just a friend or not.

Sexuality is fluid - especially in women approaching a certain age. It's very common for you to form crushes or full blown attractions to other women, even if you previously only liked men.

You can act on it or leave it - might just be a passing fancy to this one woman, might be a lifestyle change, but there's no need to act on anything if you feel uncomfortable with it.

You could just be bi curious. I used to sometimes flirt with females after a few drinks and i’d feel like they turned me on a bit. After I dabbled a bit I realised I was definitely more into men.

Sometimes you don't know until it happens. And it may just be a phase in your life or the start of something new and exciting! Be open and enjoy x

She has such a quirky personality and is fun.
A bit crazy and just the polar opposite of me.

Well only you can answer your question. To be hives I think you would know by now of you were attracted to women generally. Maybe this woman is a bit if an exception.

We are all having a night out on Saturday ..
Il have a few drinks and see what happens

I'm in my 50s and never been attracted to a woman, I would say that you are bi

Do you already have children? I have known a fair few women who've presented as straight until they've had their kids, then realised that actually they like vagina, but their biological imperative to breed was masking it.

No I don’t have any kids.
Although I do want them

Whatever happens on Saturday (Or any time) please be aware this lady is also a person and has feelings so be mindful of those.

She's not just a lesbian who's there to pander to your curiosities. Please make sure you don't just use her

Don't feel like you have to label yourself. Plenty of people identify as heterosexual and then are attracted to or fall in love with someone of the same sex. It doesn't mean that they have suddenly 'turned' gay, they've just happened to find someone they like irrespective of gender.

Agree with cake. You don’t need to label yourself or your sexuality. You are just you.