He doesn’t know what he wants

[Fluffyflump]

We have been together over 2 years, he loves me I don’t doubt that but he doesn’t know what he wants! Our kids get on great. He has had a week to himself with minimal contact from me! I see him last night, he claims to love me and miss me, we have sex yet he still doesn’t know what he wants. So currently I feel like I am in limbo! He wants more time, he is nearly 50, I am heartbroken.

Loves you my arse. The harsh truth is if you love somebody you want to be with them - ie like you do him.

You are deluding yourself if you think he loves you. He might care about you but proper love would never result in someone treating someone else the way he is being with you. Telling you he wants to be alone and making you this upset.
I’ve been in the exact same situation before and it’s devestating. But please don’t trick yourself into thinking that the good times you had at the start means he has your best interests at heart

I am coming out of a 5 month 'relationship' with a guy exactly like this. However, he expected me to stick around when he told me he couldn't commit and didn't know what he wanted. Well, after being torn and going back for a little while, I finally made the decision to walk away.

He doesn't love you in the same way you love him. Whilst I'm sure there's a lot about him that makes him great, he's not great for you. Is he treating you with respect?

Walk away. If he really wanted you in time he would come back for you. If not, you are wasting your time sleeping with and being with a man who doesn't want to stay with you. He's 50 not 25! If he doesn't know what he wants now, when will he.

You know you need to walk away, but you've invested and it's hard. But remember a life before him. Yes you've dated idiots, but this guy is hardly perfect is he if he can treat someone he loves the way he has with you?

Work on your self, google about self love and self care and focus on you for a bit. A man won't make you happy unless you can be happy on your own too.

"I don't know what I want" means "I don't want to be with you, but I'm too chicken to sack up and say so and I'd like to maintain the option to get a leg over".

I'm sorry OP but it hasn't worked out with him. It's already over; he can't give you what you want. Tell him YOU need some space to get over him, and block him.

So I have had a sleep, put my big girl pants on and had a word with myself. I know missing him and the good times will be hard but you have all be so right, if he truely loved me he wouldn’t have to think about being with me, it would be automatic! I don’t think the road will be easy but at this very present moment I feel like I can do this! Who knows what I will feel like in 1hr, but he is blocked and I am better than this. Thank you all!

💐 Stay strong.

Yessss so proud of you. It will be an emotional time now trust me, I'm going through it myself so come over to the NC thread on here and share your feelings as they will be like a rollercoaster.

You have seen the light. Well done x

Meowimacat - thank you and have posted on NC. Day one of not speaking nearly done! I can and will do this!!

Well done Fluffyflump - keep telling yourself you deserve better - because you really, really do. Stay strong.