Why do I feel so lonely and sad

[misschanandlerbong28]

Looking from the outside I guess you could say I have a decent life. Lucky enough to own my own house, I'm happily married, drive, I work but why do I still feel so lonely.

My DH is a pure gem and one of the nicest people I have ever met, yet even around him I feel very lonely.

I can't pinpoint the reason as to why I feel this way, and now it's seeping in to my work life where I've just started feeling as I don't want to come in to work but want to stay at home alone all day. I used to be able to cover up how I felt and now I think those feelings are so strong I can't help but feel them all day every day.

I sympathise . I feel just the same sometimes. I am in a happy marriage to a wonderful man but still feel lonely. Im away from family and friends . My solution was to make myself get out on my own and find friends. Its not been easy and had a few false starts but now do Aerial hoop and found an amazing set of friends . I go twice a week and now don't feel so lonely

If I was closer we could go together lol. Good luck and remember your never truly alone it just feels like it sometimes xx

Thanks for the reply @mrsaxlerose
I have family around although we're not as close as we used to be but still close. A good group of friends, I'm just unsure why I feel like this. Some days it's very strong and all I want to do is cry, some days I can act as if it doesn't bother me.

I've started back at the gym today, hopefully getting in to better shape will help me a little.

I feel lonely and can relate. It's not nice but I'm going through a break up, a painful one, have had nothing but let down since my marriage ended 4 years ago, I rent and can't afford to buy and doubt I ever will be. I'm a single mum claiming benefits and I would love to own my own house and meet someone decent who doesn't abuse me....not to compare but from reading your post you have very much to be positive and happy about....so maybe trying to make some changes to find your self worth again ?

However I do sympathise on the lonely and sad feeling as I feel it nearly all the time, so much I have a pain type feeling in my chest

I would be more sad if I had all the positives you have listed and still feeling sad? I excuse my sadness as I know it won't last but with what you have listed, definitely try and make some changes so you can try stop the sadness and loneliness ?

I've tried a local meet up with other mums and I've found this really helped me. I have friends and family but I felt I needed something else - I've also started counselling which has helped massively, also looking into things I'd like to do in the future like Hobbies
But time and money don't allow me to at the moment but I do find it has helped me, maybe you can try that? X

I sympathise. It's an awful feeling. I'm ending an awful marriage (very acrimonious divorce) and feel lonely and sad because I am lonely and sad. This is not a judgement to say you shouldn't feel like that. It makes me almost despair that even happily married people with seemingly great lives can feel the same. I guess regarldess of circumstances we can all feel that way sometimes.

Is it possible you may be deficient in certain mood boosting vitamins? You may find the picture I've attached interesting. There are certain foods that can boost our moods.

Off the top of my head here are certain things that are proven mood boosters:

1. Exercise esp. Outdoors or in groups
2. Volunteering for a good cause
3. Being around animals
4. Drinking more water
5. Gardening
6. Keeping a journal about one's feelings
7. Writing a gratitude list every day (3 things you are grateful for) or something good that happened that day
8. Meditation

One of the most important ways to stop feeling lonely is to reach out to friends and family. You say you are not very close to your family. Maybe you could try and see them more?

I'm really sorry if my post seems preachy in any way. I am trying to tackle my own feelings of loneliness and isolation and sometimes these things help me a little.
I have lost a lot of friends and family recently as they were in laws. My own loneliness is so profound that at times I feel i don't belong to the human race. As dramatic as it sounds that's the only way to describe it.
It may be depression so seeing your gp might an idea.
I wish you well. May you feel peace.

Sounds like you're depressed OP - I would suggest going to see your GP.

You don't need a reason to be depressed btw. Your life can be absolutely fantastic and you can still be depressed so please don't feel you need to justify it in any way. Your body chemicals are out of balance and they need order restored.

Thank you for all your advice. I've just this moment taken the afternoon off work and driven myself home as I just couldn't handle being there a second longer. I just couldn't concentrate and didn't want to sit there staring in to space!

In all honesty, I think I would feel stupid (cheeky) going to the doctors and saying I fee depressed. I mean maybe that is exactly how I feel but I feel like I just wouldn't be able to justify why.