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Book for intercultural marriage/family

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ThisIsTheFirstStep · 23/04/2018 08:39

I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for a good book dealing with intercultural relationships/marriages.

My husband is Korean and I am British, so obviously our cultures are very different, particularly our communication styles.

I feel like we do pretty well with our kids, we celebrate holidays from both cultures, eat food from both cultures, promote values from both cultures. But between us as a couple, it is sometimes so hard to communicate.

I speak decent Korean, he speaks more or less perfect English. I am studying a lot to improve. But we still struggle to really understand each other - he doesn’t get why I can’t just let things be sometimes, I don’t get why he sweeps stuff under the rug.

We have a good relationship overall but I think we’d really benefit from therapy. Since we can’t afford that (costs almost 200 pounds for a 45 minute session here), I think we’d really benefit from a self help book.

Does anyone have any suggestions?

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asomodai · 23/04/2018 08:59

Whilst you could be right and there is a differing attitude between cultures. This sounds more like a typical male/female attitude rather then cultural.

Considering many cultures are different and books if any would be catered towards specific cultures it might be best to get some sort of marriage/behavioral self help book instead.

ThisIsTheFirstStep · 23/04/2018 09:07

Well, open to any suggestions as I said.

It’s definitely not just a male/female thing. Korean culture is all about ‘protecting the mood’ even if it means never airing grievances.

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