Been together 13 years. Not married
Very aggressive from early on, would fly into rages and smash my windows,doors, my belongings
Once told me if we didn't leave a holiday early he would smash up the hotel room and kill himself
Has gripped me by the throat, pinned me down, twisted my fingers to stop me speaking to family on the phone.
Will steal money all the time, will go through my clothes and bag to find money and then pocket it, has used my cash card to fund fags, going out, has stolen my kids maintenance money then denied it was him. Contact less is a nightmare, he's left me short, I am in debt because of him. I now don't carry a purse or handbag and hide money in my socks and bra.
Told me after 3 months after I lost my dad that I should be over it by now and he was fed up with my crying all the time.
He's horrible to the kids.
The violence has stopped, but he can still get very moody. He works but I am left to do everything round the house as he refuses to do anything..I also work full time. He plays xbox constantly, or sits and watches netflix or youtube constantly. He brings nothing to our lives,
I need to leave but he's quite unstable. He also has nowhere to go..No friends or family.
The house is mine, it's my name on tenancy, I made very sure of that much to his resentment.
My finances and paper work are in a terrible mess, I also do not want to leave my job but I will struggle to get my youngest 2 kids to school in the morning as he does the school runs
How do I get my ducks in a row first, I need to sort my money out and my debt but I can't do this much longer.
I am never alone in the house. I don't want him to get suspicious