Online dating - blown out

[Joy69]

Just need a quick vent here. Been chatting to a lovely guy all week and we met up for a date on Friday in the day. We had loads in common and chatted for 4 hours. We carried on chatting after we got home on WhatsApp, and then again last night until 11pm. We'd both said We'd like to meet up again.
This was morning I got a message saying that it wasn't going to work between us because of our circumstances ( I have kids at high school)
Basically wth! Why go on the date in the first place if that's how he feels.

He's crazy to miss out on someone who he gets on well with naturally. His loss I say. You deserve someone who wants to support you as a mum not be a dick.

This is the brutal reality of OLD. It’s like a candy shop & people can just flit between better offers. Good job you’ve found out after one date, not one year. Bollocks to him!

Thanks for your replies made me feel much better. He had dreadful dress sense anyway. Shallow me . I haven't put that I have kids on my profile.Should I Have? Not sure that I want to in case I get a weirdo.

Well did he know you had kids before the date? By the sounds of it he didn't, that can be a serious deal breaker for some people. Oh well there are more men out there.

I had something similar. I went on a date on Monday evenings, it went well but he said I was hard to read or something a long those lines. I didn't understand what he meant because I was the one making all the conversation. Anyway he said he liked me and wanted to meet up again soon and ended with a kiss. Then he was all over me on whatsapp that evening. The following day he messaged a lot less but we arranged to meet on Wednesday evening. When Weds evening came I senses something wasn't right because he still wasn't as talkative as before, so I message a couple of hours we were due to meet to ask if he still wanted to. Then I didn't hear anything until close to midnight saying sorry he couldn't meet but it was a long story, he assured me he wasn't trying to fob me off and would like to meet again. I said oh no problen. I haven't heard from him since

And he said I was hard to read

I would advise on either saying you have kids on your profile or telling any potential date at the earliest opportunity, it's not fair to suddenly spring on them you have kids a few dates in as that is a major turn off for a lot of people. Maybe he just had a change of heart it happens a lot, I’ve been on dates where we have got on well beforehand and then had the date and it was nothing like what i was expecting so I just stopped talking to them after. By the way what does OLD mean?

Maybe he didn't feel a spark with you though he liked you or maybe the kids is a deal breaker.

I did mention the kids, but maybe not their ages. It's a minefield this online lark. The weird thing he had a 19 year old girl that sounded needier than both of mine together. Maybe it's me that's had a lucky escape.

You did nothing wrong op. No need to announce to strangers that you have kids. If it's a massive deal breaker to someone, that's their job to put that out there. Your kids privacy and safety is more important than some random man's relationship preferences.

My dp has no kids and doesn't want any and I only told him about my DC on date 2. He was a bit shocked but it was obvious there was something there, so it didn't put him off. When it's right it's right and this guy wasn't right for you x

Sorry to hear that, OP, however, its better that he was honest now than drag something out that he’s not feeling.

And yes, as a person who before being married didn’t want to date a guy with kids, I think for your sake, as well as his, you should have made your situation clear before you started dating. His decision isn’t personal but it also doesn’t make him a dick for feeling the way he does.