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Military girlfriend - any support?

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penguinparade · 22/04/2018 11:50

Hello, just wondered if anyone is in the same position as me. My lovely OH is in the forces. He’s recently deployed and won’t be home until August. This is our fourth deployment we’ve been through and I’m just not coping at all. It’s totally thrown me. I’ve not wanted to see anyone or do anything. Work has been a struggle. I’m short with everyone and I’m losing my temper quicker in general. On Thursday I cried myself to sleep. I usually cope with it pretty well and was generally under the impression that it would get easier as time goes on. Is anyone in the same situation? I’ve googled support groups but nothing really comes up.

He’s a step dad to my two girls, the oldest - though still very young - keeps asking questions about where he’s gone to and when he’s coming back. It’s so difficult to answer her. I know I will be ok eventually, it’s just getting through these initial weeks that’s proving a struggle. Thanks for reading.

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MeanTangerine · 22/04/2018 16:26

I'm not in that situation now, but I have been in the past. It is so hard. What helped me was being as busy as possible. You say you don't want to see anyone or do anything, but if you carry on like that you will become lonelier and lonelier. Don't let that happen. Your Oh is going to be away for 6 months (guessing) - those 6 months can be a long dark lonely tunnel or they could be a time when you achieve loads and have a lot of good times and enjoy the time with your dds. Just because he is away doesn't mean you have to be miserable, and it will be better for him to come back to a happier home.

The Arrse (Army Rumour Service) website has a forum topic The Other Half for family & friends, which looks fairly active & you should be able to find more people in the same boat.

EarlyBird123 · 22/04/2018 16:45

My partner is in the navy. He is away 4 weeks at the time and comes back for 2. He is going away for 6 months later in the year, and i am dreading it, because i already struggle when he is away for 4 weeks. It also will be a first time when he is away for so long. I am so scared that we will not make it through. That i will become a nuisance and make him feel worse than he is already feeling about leaving me for that long. We don’t have children yet so i tend to keep busy as well, but it’s soooo hard :(

eurochick · 22/04/2018 17:43

There's a forces sweetheart board on here.

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