Feel like I'm facing a life alone

[neverquiteenough]

I'm early 30s, 1 DC and perpetually single. Awful luck with men, 1 serious relationship in the past 10 years (lasted 1 year and ended in heartbreak).
I don't generally have issues with self esteem (I have my moments like we all do of course) or self worth being tied up in having a man or being in a relationship but I'm incredibly sad that I appear to be facing the prospect of a life alone. I don't attract men generally and when I do, I'm never quite enough for them. I'm not even sure what enough is but I know I wasn't it for them. My ex didn't love me enough to work through the first hurdle in our relationship the way I was prepared to and the bloke before him lead me on for the best part of 3 years before admitting he was still in love with his ex.
I'm fortunate to have a beautiful child, great family and friends, solid career but relationship wise, I'm a failure
When I was in a relationship last year, I thought I had found the man I was going to marry. Now I'm right back to square one of feeling completely undesirable. I don't have a "type" so the common denominator is me. Most of my friends are in relationships or getting married so I can't really talk to them because for the most part, they can't relate. Those that aren't married/in a relationship don't understand my perspective because I have a child so I'm deemed to be in a better position" than them (their words, not mine).
Just feeling sad and lonely and needed to get that off my chest

Child, youth, family, friends and solid career. What a great life. I know it is important to have someone to share these blessings with but perhaps at this time it just isn't your turn but your turn will surely arrive. 🌷🙆🏻‍♀️🌷

Thanks southamber. I'm just not convinced my turn is actually going to come. It does't for some people after all. That's the reality of life I guess.

Get out in a big wild world and look out for a soulmate. You may need to kiss some frogs but if you are not out there and not positive - it will not happen. You have a lot of wonderful things in your life and should consider yourself very lucky - good luck with your next relationship! There will someone out there for whom you,d be enough and even more!!!

you are still very young. you weren't compatible with the men before but it can still happen. enjoy being single now, you can do what you want when you want. I am sure one day you will meet someone you will get on with.

BooBreakingAgain said it very well.

it's very rare that any one person is blessed with it all, unfortunately. If you have so many positives, truly try to change your outlook to being content (imagine it's 'normal' to be single) - then when you learn to be content, lo and behold, an interested man will appear (or at least a good chance of that). But relationships bring their own problems.

You're right OP. Not everyone's turn does come. There isn't necessarily someone just around the corner or someone out there for everyone.
I'm in my late 30s with a history of a poor choices in relationships. I think I'm at peace with it now. I have consciously made her decision to make every day of my life count, to seize every opportunity, irrespective of whether I'm single or part of a couple.
I don't want to be lying in my death bed feeling like I spent my life looking for something that wasn't there, when there were so many other things I could have been doing, or seeing .
So I say fuck it. Go out there and live your life, and you might get lucky and find someone to share it with, but if you don't, no worries, at least you got out there and lived your life.

Thank you for your lovely replies

I know you are all perfectly correct. I have tried "putting myself out there", I've given OLD a good go, I've dated different types of men, I overhauled my life by moving overseas when a work opportunity came up.
Part of my frustration is that in most ways I do feel very content. I'm incredibly fortunate in so many ways. But loneliness is a very real thing and I just can't shake it off no matter how hard I try.

I’m in the same position as you, except 10 years older. I don’t have kids or any family. I really envy you for what you do have. I say this to show you that it’s a question of perspective. Lots of people envy my career, but I’m horribly lonely. No-one really ever has it all.

I understand what you mean about perspective orange

Yes, I understand that loneliness is real - I'm single too (though had longer relationships but not for a while). Some people are more content being single than others, true. But you have to think that it may well change, no need to brace yourself mentally for a single life - just try to relax and tell yourself that it may happen anytime but meanwhile do other enjoyable things. What else can you do really!
But really once you are in a r-ship, you''ll probably miss being single in some respects.