So my husband was on a long shift today. He called in quickly during his shift to drop the kids some ice lollies off because the weather was nice. He kissed me twice and said he's in a rush and had to go but didn't seem to have an issue with me. He Tenna texts me 2 minutes later saying 'your makeup is all wrong, I feel like I'm with a teenager' saying ' you need to make changes to your life or resenhou will end up like your mum' then making sly digs in relation to my weight and my appearance and saying I'm mentally unstable. He's asked me to 'change' but when I ask him what does he want me to change he said 'only you can change I can't do it for you'
He's made me feel so bad. I've put weight on since having my last child. I've tried diets but i just can't lose weight no matter what I do ( I'm really not making excuses) I'm 13.2 stone, 5.9 in height and if I eat 3 healthy regular meals and cut out all snacks I still put weight on even though the meals and portion size is correct. I've been to the doctors, they did blood tests and because they come back normal they say I'm depressed. My husband does this a lot, he goes on a massive rant on how I need to change and lists all my 'mental issues'
And then doesn't suggest anything to change?
Then everything goes back to normal and starts again months later. It's so confusing because if he was so unhappy why does he still have with me and kiss me? Why does he Tells me he loves me? He said he does all that to 'keep the peace'
Is this abuse? Do I really deserve all this for my makeup not being right and some weight gain? He says he doesn't like the fact that I don't like to use lifts ( I don't like enclosed spaces) and he said this 'continues' to my mental issues.