Hello. I'm new here, just need a bit of advice and support. I'll start with an overview of the situation.
My XP and I split 10 months ago, he was very focused on work and stopped putting in the effort (we'd been together nearly 3 years). I was suffering with Mental Health Issues (MHI) which I was unaware of until we split. He walked out whilst I was visiting a friend in Manchester for a few days.
A few weeks after he left I bumped into an old guy I used to know and we got talking. We both spoke about how our relationships had ended, mine more recently than his, but he was getting a divorce. We became close and became a support for each other at a time of need. We slept together on a few occassions but safely. We spoke about us become in a relationship, which was 3 months ago, and about 9 months after my separation and 2 months after his divorce had been finalised. We got together in a relationship and after 8 weeks he said that it wasn't what he wanted and that he wasn't ready for the commitment again.
Anyway, the next day I found out I was pregnant. I am currently 10 weeks and am excited, although heart broken, as the one thing I never wanted for my child was a broken family.
The issue that I have is that since my ex found out I am pregnant he's been telling me that he regrets what has happened with us, that he's realised what he's lost and if there is a chance of us working at things he'd like to-do I'll repeat he knows I am pregnant.
Now, I know that my baby dad is an amazing dad, he has 3 children with his ex wife, who he provides for, supports and sees, so I have no doubts on that.
My issue is, do I fight for a relationship with baby dad to make the family unit work out, even though we were both not entirly happy or do I suffer the backlash of peoples opinions of me and my ex and try and work it out because I really love him and he would not just support me, but he would support my child too and as someone that is REALLY scared about having a baby (I'll be honest it was never on my list of things to do, I always wanted to adopt or foster older children and due to medical conditions, I didn't think this opportunity would happen) and because of that, I need someone that is really going to be there for me.
I don't want a termination/abortion because I was stupid enough to create a life I need to be an adult and deal.with the situation. Like I said due to medical reasons I never thought I could have a child, I know lots of people in the world cannot have them, so I couldn't bring myself to have a termination.
If anyone has advice, guidance, support.... I'd appreciate it. Thank you.