Am I asking for trouble? OLD

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I got talking to a guy online about 2 months ago who seems lovely, we hit it off instantly. However, he lives nearly 2 hours away from me & we very quickly both agreed that it wouldn't go anywhere we wouldn't meet but we got on so well as friends we swapped numbers & have counselled each other through some other bad dates.
Fast forward to now & we've decided to meet, i fancy the arse of off him & I'm pretty sure the feeling is mutual. He's coming to spend the w/e where I live in a few weeks.
We both have kids, so know that it really couldn't work.
Do I just need to chill out, not get ahead of myself and have a fun weekend or am I setting myself up for heartbreak?

Definitely go for it OP. I never understand the negativity around distance with OLD. Yes sure, you wouldn’t actively seek someone who was 2 hours away, but if you ended up talking to someone that distance, then why not meet them and see what happens? After all, lots of people meet their future partners at weddings, visiting friends, on holiday etc, they see it has a future and they make the effort.

You have absolutely nothing to lose in meeting one another and having some fun but long term, I think you are right to have doubts.

It isn’t a huge distance but is a four hour round trip which is a hefty commute. It’s definitely further complicated by the fact you have children as I’m sure both of you will have limited time to make this commute and you obviously won’t want to be introducing each other to your children for a fair while.

I would enjoy the meeting and see how it goes but I wouldn’t get overly attached.

Go for it OP My OLD is four hours away (I'm in France) and we're making it work. OK, you can't see each other all the time, but it keeps it exciting and I find myself getting really excited to see him and counting down the hours ... can't beat that butterflies feeling ...

Thank you everyone for the really positive opinions/views. I am really excited to meet him, we've talked for hours on the phone & the conversation has flowed so naturally I really can't see that we won't get on when we meet. If there is a spark to then that will be amazing if not then I will have made a great friend!

Two hours isn’t a great distance! That’s easily done if you were to visit each other every other wkend for instance.
Ok it means no quick coffee dates or last minute meet ups but how doable is that with kids anyway?
I’m guessing that dating with children in the picture and having a long distance relationship have some similarities- lots of planning ahead and being fairly flexible and accommodating to each other’s other commitments.
I think it sounds exciting! How often do you meet people you absolutely fancy rotten, connect with and like as a friend too? Not bloody often! Enjoy it and just see what happens 😊

I say go for it and enjoy it!

So the date is tomorrow! We've been talking LOADS and I'm very excited,I have no idea how it will pan out but I'm v sure that we will have a good time tomorrow!

fingers crossed for you I hope it goes well