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My husband and our two dcs moved to uk to be close to his family. We were close to my parents previously but did not get much support from my aging parents who still have a sibiling of mine living at home. Kept the house since the move.
Since we moved here mil has helped out with our dcs quite a bit for which I am grateful. I have several brothers in law who have gotten to know and love our dcs. No sisters in law. No other grandchildren to keep inlaws busy. (no woman good enough for mils boys)
I mentioned about moving back, and husband said to me "What, so you can go back to being a cunt"
I told him if he ever called me that again it is over.
Husband comes from childhood w/domestic abuse. Parents are still together. He insists it is possible to break the cycle of abuse. But his words seem to show me it is not possible.

Background: without help with dcs from my parents I was quite unhappy. We had moved back to my hometown which was maybe not the best move and my childhood was happy but incredibly strict so I do not have many friends left there (most have moved away). Have history of depression and anxiety which predates meeting husband.

A lot depends on how you both feel about the word "cunt". I know people who use it affectionately, as a joke and think nothing more about it. For me, if my dp used it, especially about me, I'd be devastated. And we'd have to have a conversation a. About why he said it and b. How hurtful and insulting I found it. Maybe he thinks it's ok, but if it if he knows it upsets you he really shouldn't say it.