Got my first RELATE couples session tonight....

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Can anyone tell me what to expect?
I want to separate from DH, but he says he doesn't. I have agreed to a counselling session as a way to move forward as our communication isn't great.

I'm not sure he actually does want to get back together as (and I've done another thread) he has intimated to other people that he wants to take full custody of our two DCs.

I do find it really hard to communicate with him, so I'd like to use this session (and any subsequent ones) to be able to reach a good communication rapport.

Can anyone tell me what to expect?

Anyone?

I'm sorry I dont know but didn't want to read and run. Let us know how it goes for you

Just go along and see what happens.

If it's not for you then at least you've tried.

How did you get on OP?

Sorry, meant to come and update but it's been hectic. Thanks for asking.

It was actually a really useful session - I managed to confront him about taking the DC away (which I found really difficult, as I hate confrontations, but having a third person there made it more of a safe place iyswim). He was very apologetic and swore that he would never take the DCs away.

Really useful session and we will do another couple. Even if it doesn't save the marriage, it will be useful for us to have a good working communicative relationship for the kids.

Hope this helps anyone else thinking about Relate.