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partner dont want sex with me

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holyland · 19/04/2018 12:19

my partner is 59 years old I am 53 we been togeather 3 years my sex life with him is nothing he rejection me and never touch me we just lay in bed I need get cuddles when we go to sleep or nothing I have a high sex drive my body needs something from him but I get nothing I get very upset to think how can man not have sex its getting to a point where I had with him look for someone better who give me what I want

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KT63 · 19/04/2018 12:27

Well first of all, threatening to leave to find someone better isn’t going to help is it? That’s very hurtful and quite childish.

If sex is a deal breaker for you and he doesn’t want sex then I think it’s probable that the relationship has run its course.

You are quite entitled to feel you want sex and need it as part of a relationship. What you’re not entitled to do is badger, bully or force the issue.

If it’s not working for you, leave.

hellsbellsmelons · 19/04/2018 12:31

What does he say when you talk about it?
If it's not working for you then you have every right to leave the relationship.
I couldn't be in a sexless relationship either.
Time to talk it out or leave.

SandyY2K · 19/04/2018 13:29

You're not compatible sexually. You have choices

  1. Accept it
  2. Talk to him and address it
  3. Leave him

I assume you don't share children at your ages.
What's stopping you from ending it?

Aquamarine1029 · 19/04/2018 19:57

Just end it and stop wasting your time.

midnightmisssuki · 19/04/2018 20:03

Just leave you you are not happy - if you've spoken to him and he wont change then thats your choice really.

SoapOnARoap · 20/04/2018 07:48

This sounds like a complete waste of time.

It shouldn’t be like that after only 3 years, you’re still in the getting to know each other stage.

Kick him into touch & find someone compatible

missyB1 · 20/04/2018 07:51

You’ve only been together three years, was it always like this? Surely there was sex at the beginning of the relationship?
Would he agree to see a Doctor? There might be physical or psychological reasons.

Dvg · 20/04/2018 12:25

He obviously doesn't have a high sex drive. Not his fault and he doesn't have to have sex with you if he doesnt want to but if you need that then you need to find someone else who does have a sex drive

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