DP left me last night ...

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

I don't know what to say really just came here for support.

Only being dating a year and a half but he says he cannot see a future together which hurts. I've noticed the distance coming for a couple of months now and I was starting to get serious thinking of areas we could move to in the future and the possibility of moving in together after a year or so ... he is very commited and loyal and I'm his first relationship so I doubt he's wanting to mess around.

I'm panicking as all my friends seem to be settling down moving in with partners. One is even married and I'm worried I'll be alone and my dream is to eventually settle down with children. I'm 26 but not getting any younger:(

I know you'll get told this 100000 times but 26 is no age at all. My best friend just moved in with her bf at 37 and they are planning on having kids in the next two or three years.

You have loads of time.

And there are loads of guys. Don't settle for the first one, especially one who is pushing you away.

Focus on yourself, find out what makes you happy.

You say 26 but not getting any younger like you’re some kind of exceptional 26. You’re not. You’re a normal 26, ie v v young.

OP if I could give my younger self any advice, it would be to stop thinking about my age and worrying that I am 'not getting any younger'. At 38, I worry far less about it than I did at your age.

Focus on now. Beyond saving up some money, ensuring you have the ability to support yourself, and taking care of your health, the future will likely just happen and whatever you plan will go the opposite way to what you thought.

I moved to Korea aged 28, with every intention of staying a year or two. Here I am 10 years later, married to a Korean guy, with two kids and a dog. You don't know what will happen. So just take care of yourself and see where life takes you.

I was married at 26 thought we'd have a couple of years, try for kids.

Nope-found myself getting divorced before those 2yrs as his ow was pregnant.

Married again at 31, 2 kids fairly quickly, been married almost 23yrs.

When I married for the first time I felt as if I was on the old side!!

THere's plenty of time for you-although I'm sure it doesn't feel like it atm.

Good grief, you're far too young to obsess on settling down at 26. Do some living.
I had various relationships (lots of fun too) and didn't meet DH until late thirties and had children a few years later.

I’d been with my first DH since we were 14 years old. We met at school, married at 19, had a house together, were planning children. Travelled a lot. Thought everything was perfect. Until he left me at 28 years old after getting him OW pregnant. At this point we’d been together 14 years. All I knew was him. Anyway it was obviously devastating at the time but fast forward a couple of years. I met my now DH at 30, got married at 32, now have 3 beautiful dc and couldn’t be happier. You’re still young. There’s plenty of time for you to meet someone new yet. Just enjoy being on your own for a bit

I'm sorry this has happened OP.

He obviously wasn't the man for you. Don't start panicking about starting a family. Just get back out there when you're ready, have fun and see what happens.

Thanks all for the lovely advice and reassurance

The couple of posters who thought I'm not sad at loosing him - trust me i really am...I just thought I'd ask more about the other issue as I didn't think anyone could be of much help about my DP without knowing us both personally.

I agree that 26 is quite young. It certainly will be a long time before i want to date again I think

Well, never say never, but I agree that a break from dating to find out who you are on your own is a very good idea.

I agree that 26 is quite young. It certainly will be a long time before i want to date again I think

That depends what you mean by dating. If you mean searching for a life partner, yes it's too soon for you.

But that doesn't stop you having fun with men, accepting offers for a drink or meal, or yourself asking someone nice for a date. Just for fun! You may actually find that someone happens to you when you were more relaxed and not trying. That's how it often works.