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They always have to go OTT (alcohol)

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funnyfish · 13/05/2007 10:23

We went out last night with a few friends (2 other couples) and I had decided at the beginning of the night that I didn't want to get "drunk" at all, just wanted to have a good time without throwing up or feeling ill or making myself look stupid.

So I mixed my drinks with cola, for instance I'd have 1 half lager and then for my next drink I'd have half a coke so I was drinking far less alcohol than everyone else.

I was more than happy with the way the night was going. My partner on the other hand was drinking pint after pint after pint mixed with the odd aftershock that one of the other girls kept buying everyone...

It got to 12am and my partner was drunk as a fart, couldn't talk properly, couldn't walk without bumping into things (or other people!), he went and bought him and one of our friends a pint and dropped one of them on the wooden floor which smashed the glass and obviously spilt lager everywhere...he ended up in the toilets throwing up, comes out looking like death warmed up and goes and buys himself another pint!! My friends bloke was very drunk too, lost all their money, wandered off down the street to find an ATM machine and almost wandered onto a main road...why do they always have to go OTT? are your partners like this? By the end of the night my DP was sat on the floor outside the take-away with his head between his knee's unable to get up , I tried to make him walk home but he flagged a taxi down, I made him sleep on the couch and he woke me up 3 times trying to get into our bed...I start a new job tomorow too so really wanted one last good nights sleep before the big day

so, are all blokes like this?

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scootermum · 13/05/2007 10:41

My one is, although its less of an issue as we dont get out loads anymore due to where we now live and DD coming along..

But he is totally incapable of knowing when he has had enough-he will just carry on drinking through, merry, jolly, straght to, cant walk, acting like a tit, has to be carried home, ruins my night..plus he cant go out for an evening and not drink-it would be unthinkable to him, it really gets to me sometimes..I am on my second baby in 18 months so have had to spend quite a bit of time of late sober-but suggest he lay off and do the driving or whatever when im not pg, so we can have an easy night out, (we live out in the sticks so if one of us doesnt drive its train into London and expensive cab back)?You must be joking..

Nearly all of the male halves of our couple friends are like this, but admittedly none of them have kids, so its not so much of an issue...and really it isnt so much for us now as he does recognise it and like I say opportunities currently limited!

sweetkitty · 13/05/2007 10:46

yes I have another one like this too he would get himself into dangerous situations like trying to walk home from Central London, getting lost, getting mugged a few times too

Now he hardly ever drinks maybe 2-3 times a year as he's realised he's a complete tosser when drunk and doesn't want to end up in hospital or worse!

Personally I think it's a defective male gene!

MrMariella · 13/05/2007 10:50

Tricky, isn't it?

Your post indicates that you too like to drink to excess and do stuff similar to waht he got up to......

once you are both in this zone, it's a bit tricky to determine who is the more culpable party.

and yes, it is a bit rich to note that you like to go OTT in alcohol. And then ask "are all blokes like this"....!!!

funnyfish · 13/05/2007 10:55

I think you may have misread my post, I said I dislike getting drunk and purposely pace myself drinking coke etc so I end up with less alcohol inside me than...I was completely sober at the end of the night!

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JonesTheSteam · 13/05/2007 10:55

MrMariella ???

MrMariella · 13/05/2007 10:58

FF - was reading ALL of your post, indicating on that specific night you were making attempt to stay relatively sober...but your post indicates you've got 'form' for behaving similalry to him.

Iam just saying 1. it's tricky when you both know you like to drink to excess (not judging it btw) and 2. please don't imply it's a male problem.

MrMariella · 13/05/2007 10:59

jones? Hi.....

offski for day with dd and my sis...have a good one!!

JonesTheSteam · 13/05/2007 11:04

MrMariella - Why the sarky ''

Just think you read a lot into funnyfish's OP.

Although I agree with you that it isn't just a male thing. Plenty of drunk women wandering around of a saturday as well.

TBH luckily I don't really know any men like this - I know some that occasionally go off the rails on a night out, but it isn't a regular occurence.

suzycreamcheese · 13/05/2007 11:07

no not male problem...a drink problem is not gender specific at all..

MrMariella · 13/05/2007 15:23

JONES!!

No sarcasm intended!!!!

I have been away until recently, and thought you were 'letting on' to me. But I didn't know who you were, with a name I would have recognised. Guessing it didn't help, with me having one foot out the door..

again, I am sorry for that confusion.

AND you are prob. right - I am looknig too much into it!

aDad · 13/05/2007 15:34

no i dont think all blokes are like this! And binge drinking seems just as popular with women.

It is the british disease though isn't it.

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