Do your parents acknowledge your wedding anniversary?

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

I ask this as it was our wedding anniversary yesterday (12 years) and my parents did not send a card or phone to say hi Happy Anniversary. They've always been emotionally distant like this (they show little to no interest in their grandchild) so I was not expecting any acknowledgement at all.

Anyone else had similar and if so how do you deal with it?.

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No. But they don't really recognise their own either. We're not a big anniversary-celebrating family. Actually not quite true cos my DB and DSis and their other halves always manage to go away for a weekend around their anniversaries. None of the rest of us would send them a card though

No they don't - they did the first year but not since. I don't expect them to tbh.

Although both Mum and MIL have made cards for us with ds on occasions when we have left the children with them overnight for our anniversary, which I think was lovely.

No and I wouldn't expect anyone except my husband to remember our anniversary (amd I don't even care if he doesn't tbh). I don't think this shows emotional distance (although other things may do!)

During an argument years ago my DH shouted at me "well at least my mum sends us a card for our anniverary, yours never has"

I responded with "yes dear, but your mum has something to celebrate, mine doesn't"

Have you tried telling them it upsets you, more the little interest in your dc than the anniversary

my mum always sends an anniversary card but to be honest i wouldnt think it a big deal if she didn't

TBH the disinterest in my son upsets me far more than a continual lack of acknowledgement of my wedding anniversary.

I have tried talking to them at length about this but it just goes in one ear and out the other. They reap what they sow ultimately.

Yes we send cards and sometimes a small gift to,
My Mum& Dad
DH's Mum & step Dad
DH's Brother & SIL

My Sister is not married, neither is my FIL.

They all send cards to us too.

Like most replies here, I don't expect anyone else to remember my anniversary except my DH.

Why should your parents be expected to remember your anniversary? Do you remember their's and give acknowledgement? And if you do, do they expect it?

I'd be upset by the lack of interest in my children too, I have to say.

My mum always remembers - it is me who forgets!

Quite a few family and friends send one and it's a bit embarassing really. I nver send one (apart from the first year perhaps). Waste of paper really. It's different though if you don't send one to each other! My DH always asks me to get one from him!!! I say no get it yourself.

My mum usually sends us a card (as do the ILs) but didn't last year which made me a bit . I always always gave/ sent my parents a card on their anniversary, and always acknowledge the anniversaries of my dad's and grandparents deaths too, so you'd think she could remember one date..

Do they remember your birthdays? Surely that's more important?

I am not bothered as long as we remember. My in-laws dont want anything to do with DD [ANGRY]

FIL second wife has been sacked from 2 different jobs due to thieving, she also tried to attack me during an argument once.

Rough as houses

What you don't have from them you don't need, i enjoy pissing them off to be honest as FIL hates me anyway.

My DH is in Africa at the mo and FIL didn't know he had gone, i made sure he found out. He will be livid that DH didn't bother to tell him.

Dh didn't tell him because they never bother with our DD his biological grandaughter, yet they fuss all over his second wifes grandson and new grandaughter.

People like that are not worth it,spend time chanelling your energy in to something positive for you family.

yes, mine an d dh's do - always send a card, sometimes flowers.

well we married after my parents died so no they dont . Dh's parents have always sent a card and a cheque for £50 apart from this year when they appear to have totally forgotten it despite actually being in the country at the time

no - no-one except us remember our anniversary. don't expect them to either!

Attila

Don't get one or expect one, expect dh to remember and he does. Sounds like this to you is another example of their emotionally distant behaviour to you. Sad bout them taking little interest in their gc. Perhaps they are incapable of emotionally close relationships, afterall if they can't have one with their own dd...

I always think that wedding anniversaries are to be remembered by the couple themselves, not anyone else. I am always astounded if my family or friends mention my anniversary. A couple of people sent us anniversary cards on our 1st anniversary, but that's it. Seems silly to be bothered, tbh.

Sounds like it's upset you becuase your parents are emotionally distant in other ways as well. I wouldn't get upset over this though.

mil sends a card and sometimes a pressie, my parents don't except last year when it was 10 years. Don't send cards to parents except on special ones like 25 etc. doesn't bother me in the slightest

No, actually we even forget ourselves so no, I'm not bothered (and I forget theirs all the time!)

No - I wouldn't think it really has anything to do with them though. We're really close but still wouldn't imagine they would feel it was something they need to aknowledge.

Ours was on Friday (11 years). My parents always send us a card and I always send them one. DH's parents used to but after a hissy fit from them in 2000, they don't now. They've always hated me for taking their little boy away from them anyway!

PIL send a card and it grates for me. They also send the same card every year.

Personally, I don't want anyone else to celebrate my anniversary and unless it's a biggun, I am not interested in acknowledging anyone elses. Maybe that makes me miserable but to me, they are private and between me an my DH.

Seems a bit odd for someone else to mention it, a bit like saying "congrats on not getting divorced yet!"