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Overcoming a Porn Addiction

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OneNameToRuleThemAll · 17/04/2018 11:30

I guess I'm writing this more for myself than for advice. I hope to look back on this in a year and see that I haven't slipped.

I discovered "porn" at the age of eight. Page 3 of The Sun. Not a great start. By age ten, I was frequently buying the Daily Sport on a weekday after school. It amazes me that a shop would sell that to a child. It wasn't even a corner shop but a Spar.

Walking home from school one day at around the same age, I found some porn on the pavement. A centre sheet from a porn magazine. I took it home with me.

Eventually, I discovered video porn entirely by accident at around the same age. I guess in some ways, it was the precursor to a popup on the internet. I was watching a recording of The Three Stooges I'd picked up on VHS from a car boot sale. I was playing with my toys so only half watching the TV, when I turn around and find myself staring at a woman performing oral sex on a man.

The video of The Three Stooges had been recorded over a recording of TVX. Fortunately it was only soft porn but for a kid, it was like striking gold. I hid the tape and masturbated over it frequently.

Anyway, that is the beginnings of my addiction to porn. From there, you can probably guess the rest - as I got older, my access to the internet increased and as internet speeds rose, my access grew further to the various streaming sites now available.

I'm now in my late 20s with a testosterone deficiency (unrelated). This makes it very difficult for me to perform sexually and my addiction to porn and masturbation doesn't help at all either. My Doctor prescribed me with TRT to help and I had my first injection a month or two ago.

After being unable to hold an erection during a session with my wife, I have decided to make a proper go of quitting porn and masturbation. My wife is very supportive and is helping me make this transition.

Today is Day 3. Every day is a struggle but I beat cigarettes so this should be a doddle, right?

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hellsbellsmelons · 17/04/2018 12:11

Are you having specialist counselling?
Please look into it.
You will need professional support to help you through this.
It takes up to 2 years to get 'better'
Have a read up on it and find someone local to you who can help.
Your DW supporting you is great.
My ExP was a porn addict, but lied all the time about help was getting etc.....
It moved into his real-life and he was dumped!
He's still an addict now and is inflicting the same crap on his current partner, who he was cheating with, along with others, while seeing me.
Take it very seriously. It can escalate but well done on tackling it.

OneNameToRuleThemAll · 17/04/2018 16:13

Thanks for the advice, I will look into counselling.
Today is proving difficult but trying to distract myself by doing other things.

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