My ex is a dick

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(Sorry NC and this might be long) I just need somewhere to vent

So for a bit of background:
I found out I was pregnant, my boyfriend broke up with me and said he wanted nothing to do with baby. Fine. I started preparing for life as a single mum. He then came back a couple of months later and wanted to try again and be a good dad. He was back and forth for months then I found out he'd been sleeping with other people at the same time as me, I decided the relationship was a no go and focus on raising the baby instead, I told him he could have as much contact with the baby as he wanted. All was fine

Fast forward to two weeks before she was due and everything was still fine. He was going to be at the birth, both excited for baby and ready to knuckle down with the co parenting. Then suddenly he turned round and said he's got a new girlfriend, he hates me and can't stand me and would rather go through court for visitation than have to "put up" with me.

I'm so fucked off. I'm now 41 weeks and I just literally wish he would grow up and stop acting like a child. Sorry for the rant I'm just very pregnant and very angry that people have to fuck up what was a perfectly decent arrangement.

Go through court and also while you are at it get the CSA involved. I am sure he will change his tune once he gets a letter from them.

Stay strong in the hormonal days after the birth. He may come begging to be on the bc and give dc his name and all the usual ramblings of a twat.
He deserves nowt and your dc needs you and you alone at this precious time.

Good grief he's a cunt.
Cut him off for now until you have had the baby.
Do you have someone else who can be with you at the birth?
Once you are settled you can let him know about the birth.
I agree with a PP. Contact CSA as soon as you can and get the ball rolling with that.
But please block him for now and keep your sanity at this time.
You don't need him messing with your head right now.
Get family and friends around you and ignore twat face!

He's done you a favour for the long term. Really. He has shown you who he is and that he is not to be trusted, end of.

Go through the courts. Make sure he pays what he is required to under the law. Refuse to do it any other way. You can't trust him.

I hope the baby arrives soon and safely. x

Do not trust him again.

Find a new birthing partner to support you.

Register baby with your surname & choice of first name.
Don't put his name on the birth certificate, or allow him to come with you to register the birth, in case he sabotages your naming plans.

Contact CSA (?) for child support & keep any text messages/emails to use in support of your claim.
I wouldn't block him just yet, I'd give him every chance to drop himself in it by sending rude, insulting or aggressive text messages. They could come in handy.

Best wishes for a safe & happy birth.

Don’t put him on the birth certificate.
He will fuck your child around like he’s doing to you.

Time to focus on you and the birth, exit the drama created by this man.
I think the only answer to this is 'ok' then leave him to it.

Have baby with a new supportive birthing partner, recover from birth stress free.
Register birth on own apply to CM and then let ex get on with applying for court ordered contact

Ignore the drama queen. As others have said, concentrate on getting ready for delivery. He is going to keep up this bullshit no matter whats going on and you must start as you mean to go on with him.
Keep him on the low low about everything. Tell him nothing more than he needs to know such as, the baby has arrived.
You owe him nothing.
If he wants to rant, then he can contact a solicitor. No more direct contact with you.
Block his number.
Block his arse from everything an anything.
Including his family if you are in contact with them on social media.
Shut him down now, keep him that way because there are years of this lunacy ahead that will test your every nerve. use everything within your power to turn the volume down on him
Has he always been this, quite frankly, MAD!!!!