Need some advice with a situation that must be drearily familiar to many, many people. DW and I both mid-50s, been together a long time. Two kids: DD at Uni and doing fine, DS moving on before long. DW and I don’t have a relationship, haven't had for some years and essentially live together as friends. We get on okay (if we go out, we have a nice time) and there's no animosity. There is also no warmth, no affection, no intimacy and certainly no sex. This is how DW wants it. I tried to work on the issue many times in the past but got nowhere. Last few years I admit I’ve given up and we’ve settled into this "friendship" pattern.
I certainly didn’t want to rock the family boat over the last 4-5 years as both kids had various issues. This is no longer the case so I need to decide whether to stay or go. Advantages of leaving are obvious but it will also be a huge wrench, involve a massive financial hit (all round) and the kids will hate it (although, obviously, they’re older now and they’ll get over it).
My current life, despite the obvious issue, is pretty good. Leaving feels like a huge scary leap into the dark which could either work out well or be something I hugely regret. Last Sunday, just when I was thinking I really have to leave we had a (admittedly rare nowadays) family meal with all four of us and it was great. All getting on, chatting, laughing, everyone having a nice time and I’m sitting there thinking, "Oh for fuck’s sake, this works well. Am I really going to smash this all up?"
I’m not expecting anyone to make my mind up for me but I’d be interested to hear what other people have decided in similar situations and whether it worked out well, badly... anything really.