I’m looking for some perspective so please bear with me on this.
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I’m the middle one of 3 sisters. Me, Marie (eldest) and Freda (youngest). *Names changed
All 3 of us are not in contact with our parents for different reasons, due to toxic relationships with them, and due to the toxicity, the three of us never stayed in contact. Until recently.
Marie got in contact with me by text. Marie had always stayed away from the family for long periods even before she went NC, so hopefully without sounding awful, we were just used to her not being around so her text came as a bit of a shock.
Anyway, it was just a hi, how are you kind of text, so you’re thinking ‘that’s great’ right?
Well, it would have been but for one thing. The reason why Marie became estranged from the family is because she made a threat to harm our great nephew.
Marie has schizophrenia and bipolar. When she made the threat, she was not taking her medication. Her social worker (who had to alert certain members of our family about the threat) said Marie had been complaining of feeling like a zombie while taking the medication, but the problem was when she didn’t take it, she had meltdowns like this. Much of it was about our family, and with the family being as dysfunctional as it is, my thoughts are that our parents helped towards making Marie ill in the first place, and for her to make the threat.
Great nephew is a much loved child, fussed over by great nana, who never gave a damn about us.
Now to the present day: in one way, I’m happy to hear from her, she is my sister, but in another way, I’m thinking is this going to open a can of worms?
I know I’m not in contact with my family, I had gone NC after this happened, but I saw the unhappiness in Marie when she was a child and I don’t think it ever left her. She is on her own, and I hate the thought of her dying on her own, but the threat she made hangs over us. What do I do?