When you’ve decided it’s over

[recklesslove]

It’s over. It’s not a case of if but of when.

Is it best to do it as soon as possible? Is it best to get ducks in a row? Is it best to wait for the family summer holiday to be over?

Please let me know what you think. I want to get ducks in a row but I am also struggling to carry on pretending there’s hope for us.

Thanks

What is your situation? Are you married? Do you own a house together? My gut instinct would be to tell you to end it as soon as possible, living a lie is difficult and stressful. But, its hard to advise you with such little detail.
When I decided my relationship was over, I did take months to bring myself to do it but wish now I had done it sooner.

Sorry more details... married, both own the house, two kids.

I plan to move to be near my family. About 2 hours away.

We’ve been talking about separating and have decided that we’ll see where we are after the summer. I think that’s what I need to do although I’ve already made up my mind.

I know you have a holiday booked, but I would really advise you to do it as soon as possible. Separation and divorce is a long business and waiting before you do the inevitable will just drag out the pain...which there will be. Also he may have false hope while you are busy checking out. All the best and good luck

Would you really enjoy the holiday anyway? I assume you will have to sell the house. Mine has been on the market for a whole year now after 2 failed sales so this could take longer than you think. Its best to get the ball rolling ASAP if you are 100% sure.

If you know it is what you want, start the ball rolling. False hope is not a nice thing for either party in the marriage