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I’m confused

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se7enthings · 15/04/2018 11:35

I met up with a guy yesterday (online dating) he paid for drinks and wouldn’t let me repay him. Today I’ve been deleted off every social media.

I’m so so confused

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Masterpiece008 · 15/04/2018 11:40

OP, it's not about the drinks. It's not you, it's him. At least, he should have told you were you are being ghosted. It's the worst feelings ever.

Did you have chemistry or connections?

pog100 · 15/04/2018 11:41

I imagine the paying thing is a red herring. He just isn't interested and didn't want to enter into any discussion whatsoever. Harsh and cowardly though.

Beaverhausen · 15/04/2018 11:43

Do not take it personally, he probably just did not feel a spark.

With OLD it is always best to ensure that you meet someone sooner rather than later and do not add them to your social media the last thing you need it is to have some nutcase stalking you months after.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 15/04/2018 11:49

He didn't feel a spark and felt guilty enough to pay because he knew he was going to ghost you. Lessons learned x I don't let people add me on social media until I really know them

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se7enthings · 15/04/2018 11:49

Thanks everyone x

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Queenofthedrivensnow · 15/04/2018 11:52

Oh and it's still extremely rude and no reflection on you whatsoever op x

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se7enthings · 15/04/2018 12:07

My self esteem has taken a knock but it’s fine

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sameoldsame · 15/04/2018 13:08

It’s not you! He’s just not a grown up.
Grown ups would just say, nice to meet you, you’re nice, I don’t think you’re for me, but good luck.
Only ONE person has ever done that, and I was actually so happy that they had done that! It was SO refreshing

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se7enthings · 15/04/2018 13:12

Men (or boys) are idiots

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GreyGardens88 · 15/04/2018 13:12

I'd rather be ghosted than be told outright they're not interested. At least with ghosting you can delude yourself that they're not messaging you for other reasons, like they're scared of commitment or that I'll break their heart Grin

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se7enthings · 15/04/2018 13:28

Hahahahaha good thinking

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foreverday · 15/04/2018 14:00

What a horrible person !

I'd never do that if I even if I didn't feel a connection

I'm no way near ready to start dating but when I am ready I am petrified of this....

But as others have said, it's the way he is
Just be thankful you are not and good to find out now he is such a horrid person

But easier said than done when you've spent time getting to know someone

Were you talking long?

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