How do I stop being a mug?

[Sexykitten2005]

I really was working on getting stronger and being happy in my skin. Met a guy online 7 months ago we went on a few dates, ended up in bed and then he ghosted me. We’d planned another date before we slept together and he just didn’t show up or message. Ok it happens, chalk it up to experience, move on. And I did. I was really happy just spending time on my own or with friends etc.
He messaged me a month ago to apologise for disappearing and explained he had had some MH issues. Thanked him for his apology and wished him well, then he started off the texting again. I held back for a bit then eventually agreed to a drink, so he could “make it up” to me.
He’s done it again. Disappeared for a few days and when I asked if he was still up for going out I got a no not really bit busy reply. We didn’t sleep together this time. Why has he done it? And why did I let him back in?
I feel like I’d moved past his rejection and was doing ok and no he has knocked me back down. I want to yell at him and tell him how awful he is but I know that’ll stoke his ego. I’ve limited myself to asking why he got back in contact if he’s not bothered and he said he wanted to apologise. That’s fine! I accepted it a month ago, didn’t have to keep messaging.
I feel like he has knocked me right back and undone all my hard work!

Yeah right what he meant to say was trying it on with another woman and things just did not work out, so will give you another shot.

Do not fall for it, i did about 8 years ago. He supposedly got admitted for a breakdown bla bla bla. Turned out he was married the whole time. How did I find out... I messaged his son on facebook to send him a message as I was concerned after receiving his voicemail and not being able to get hold of him.

Best thing to do is to block and move on.

Block him and move on.

He told you he was unreliable the first time. You've now had confirmation. He's not worth your time or energy.

There are plenty of nice blokes out there. Don't waste any more time on this loser.

Sounds like he has used you - sorry.

Block and move on.

Block him. Honestly if he contacted you again you would probably fall for it again. He came back and told you he has mh issues and this is something he does. Surely that should have been your wue to run for the hills?!
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. Is my best advice.

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my daughter went out with a guy with mental health issues and he would do thos keep dostancing himself from her esp when his mental health was particularly bad. It is very upsetting and a lot to deal with

OP, block him and if he ever text you from a different number, simply ask him, "Who is that?"

Do not engage! You are not his door mat to wipe his feet on when he wants.

Yes whenever they come back after disappearing, they seem to do it again. Don’t give anyone a second chance!

You’ve been played. Block.

He knows you are an easy ego-stroke.

Block him.

Think about why you were so easily taken in again.

I used to be like this.

I eventually stopped and met a nice guy.

It takes a lot of work though.

Yeah I know, blocked and wouldn’t dream of going back. I just don’t understand how I spent so long working on me and trying to mentally stronger and more aware of my self worth and then rolled over first time I had the opportunity to stand up for myself.

We've all been there so try not to feel too bad! Just learn from it