Should we be more than friends?

[Heartofblonde83]

I met a guy thorough internet dating 7 years ago, dated for a few months but I wasn't ready for a relationship as I still had mixed feelings for my ex (My kids dad). The guy is a widow and also has children but has issues over losing his wife. We have remained good friends and our kids get on really well. When we 1st met I was attracted to him but didn't really have a physical relationship. My question to others is, I'm confused over my feelings for him, great guy, great company, we can laugh together, have similar Interests, but I don't get the urge to jump into bed with him or feel a spark. On the other side of the coin I can't imagine him not being in my life and know that our friendship Would be awkward if we were with other people. Any advice would be great!

If you don't feel a spark, then it doesn't sound like you should be anything more than friends at the moment, especially if he's still strongly grieving for the loss of his wife. If you got together and he developed feelings for you, then you decide that the spark just isn't going to happen, then where does that leave him?

I think it's more than possible that you could just really, really like him and love him as a friend, without wanting anything more. Unless you're certain about your feelings, I think you should just... Not.

His wife passes away over 10 years ago, before we met.