Still living with your ex?

[halfyorkshiremanhalfessexgirl]

Long story. On here somewhere.

Its going to be a good few months until I can be not living in the same space as someone who dishes out daily verbal abuse in front of the kids.

Now I am really beginning to lose it - its been 16 months since I have decided enough was enough.

He is waiting to buy a flat. His mum died last year - that why this is all taking so long. He is depressed, wont get help.

Today I said - cant we just be civil?

He took the kids to the cinema today and got fish and chips on the way home but none for me.
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2 weeks ago I stopped doing his washing.

He says I am bitch today he said I was bipolar. That's because he thinks I show a nice face to the world but am horrible to him. I dont think either of us are helping each others sanity at the moment to be honest.

Anyone still living and trying to coparent with their ex?

I did and my experience is that by being reasonable, you will still be being reasonable years from now, and you sill still be putting up with the abusive comments.

Our agreement was that he would move out once he saved a deposit to rent a property. There was always a reason why it didn't happen.

I realised that he just wasn't going to move out - he had it too easy, meals cooked, house cleaned, washing done, bills paid. Not doing any of those for him resulted in more stress for me.

I forced the issue by finding him a place and offering to pay the deposit directly - he still wouldn't budge. I then gave him an ultimatum - he accepts the offer of help or I have him physically removed from my home. He waited it out.

He discovered that I meant it and ended up moving in with a relative temporarily. He is still there, still "looking for somewhere else", a decade later.

thanks
I am worried that as I have always sorted all the 'life admin' its going to take such a long time for him to sort himself out.

Your story has made me realise my hunch may be correct!