I keep having (inapropriate) dreams about someone other than my husband.

[pricklypearbear]

Ive gone incognito for this one as Mr Pricklypearbear often has a peek on Mumsnet.

My problem is that I keep dreaming about my sisters boyfiend I definatly do not want an affair or any such thing, I would never contemplate hurting my family or my sister like that.

But the dreams are troubling all the same. When i see him in 'real life' its very awkward.

Yes. I do find him attractive, I may even 'fancy' him but I wish these dreams would stop.

They're not very rude dreams, they are (worryingly) subtle dreams where i confess to him i like him and we just have sneaky kisses and try to arrange to be alone somehow in the house together

Its making me very uncomfatable around him and I also feel very guilty around my husband and sister. I find myself almost saying 'his' name when i talk to my husband.

He is younger than me and i fear its just a crush and my sister has told me he thinks I'm 'well fit' - which i think triggered it, flattery gets you everywhere, - but seriously - how do I stop the dreams?

Thanks

PPB

i dont think you can stop dreams. FWIW i dream about a good male friend of ours a lot. sometimes full on raunchey stuff, somethimes just totally innocent chatting type ones.

the worast one i had was when i had a dirty dream about one of my bosses.

I had an 'inapprpriate' dream about dd's teacher the other nite

Don't worry about it too much, it's just you're mind doing what you rl self wont.

I often have dreams where me and DH have screaming rows which end in me leaving him, or even beating him up
Mind you sometimes I'm very tempted to smack him one in rl

I had a really strange dream where I met, fell in love with and married a really handsome older man who was fascinated by me

Hello,

and thanks for your replies.

I understand people often have really random dreams about people, but you see I do like him already and whats worrying me is that they seem so real and I find my self remembering them and enjoying it.

Its not like it's a random dream about 'the ugly man in the shop'

I just feel awfully confused and horrid about it all.

i think our male friend is rather fit and have often thought 'if i was single...'

they are only dreams, you arent about to try it on with sisters boyfriend, so dont worry about it, and enjoy the dreams lol.

Oh, please don't feel bad about your dreams, pricklypearbear
cos you can't help them.

If he's a good looking bloke who treats your sister well it's natural you will find him attractive.

Don't beat yourself up about it, honestly!

I've had these about collegues at work...and it leaks into rl, its so real its as if it actually happened and I found myself very embarressed around them...even the unattractive manager I had s*x with in a dream...ugh!

Don't know what to say...you could try reasoning with yourself. ie 'These things have not happened, nor will they happen. I love my sister and dh and it is dreaming, I may not have control of dreams but I do have control of myself when I am awake'. Or whatever. Sounds as if i'm saying your tempted there but I'm trying to get across to the 'dream' part of you...does that make sense???

or alternatively you could get a picture of george clooney and look at that before bedtime

i only have sex dreams about DP, which i think makes me a bit odd. You sound perfectly normal to me!