Has he ever been violent to you?

[Gingerbreadlattes]

Just that really. Yesterday we had a big row, he's one of those people that will shout and call you every name under the sun, and just go on and on and not let you get a word in. So I thought if I left the room, he would just stop. But no he followed me in to the kitchen, I had my back to him as I kept ignoring him. He threw a toy at me and it hit me in my neck, he threw it with such force that even after an hour my neck was still hurting and really hot. He would throw things in the past in heated arguments, but never aimed at me. Then he got really close to my face and kept shouting abuse at me, I really thought he was gonna punch me in the face. I told him if he touched me I'd call 999, he then just left. This all happened in front of the DC, I put them to bed at 8pm and went into my bedroom and stayed there until now, here I am can't sleep, keep thinking about it over and over again. I keep thinking about if this is it, if this is just before time he's gonna hit me. He's sleeping on the sofa, and I'm here, in my bedroom.

For those of you who don't know, we're currently separating and I'm moving out, just living together while I'm looking for a property.

No, my partner has never thrown things at me, shouted in my face or made me so frightened that I thought I needed to call emergency services. He has rarely raised his voice to me and never in front of our children. Nor did my Father do any of those things to my Mother.

I am sorry this has happened to you. He is completely out of line. Please call Women's Aid for proper specialist support. Xx

Can you stay with anyone else while you're looking for a place? Would you consider calling the police or Women's Aid for advice? Please try to get away from him as soon as you can; he sounds dangerous and very aggressive.

Nope, been together 3 years and hes never even shouted at me, we've had petty arguments ( not that many and cant remember when the last happened) but we tend to make up after an hour and it never resulted in shouting or being physical.

No, ten years together and DH has never been cruel or abusive, because he's not a cruel or abusive person.

Glad you are leaving OP, but agree with PPs - is there anyway you and DC can get away quicker? Hugely admire your strength.

Once during an argument, my partner threw the tea towel he was holding on the floor really hard. Just at his feet.

I don't him that it worried me and I saw it as aggressive and as I had an ex who used to hit me, it made me nervous.

That's it. That's as much as he's done.

Been in several long term relationships and several short ones and never not once had anyone been the least violent.

Yes,often. Hence why we are now divorced.Hence why I will never fully trust another man if he's a drinker.

Yes my partner was violent twice and frightened me several more times. Calling women's aid helped me enormously. After he broke a door in the house I told him that one more incident would be a clear message to me that he was ready to end the relationship and I stuck to that, full stop. We're now getting a divorce and he still refuses to acknowledge that his behaviour was unacceptable and says I'm making it up to hurt him.

Can Women's aid help with accommodation?

I'm sure WA can help with Accomodation @Gingerbreadlattes.
And no, in over 23 years, my dh has never got in my face, followed me from room to room, or thrown something at me. And I've not been an easy person to live with believe me.
We have arguments and shout but it's normal with occasional if ever shouting, . Kids come in and ask for some chocolate, can you get me a drink part way through and aren't frightened or worried.

Good luck.