Why doesn't he text me as much anymore ?

[runningintothelight]

Ok, please don't flame me . If you read some of my previous threads , I've had some really bad experiences with men , cheating , ghosting etc and I'm just very anxious about everything.

So I started seeing this guy 2 months ago. We met on OLD and for the first week we spent nearly every day together ( I was off work for vacation and he works from home ).

Then life got in the way , but still we see each other between 2-3 times a week. We texted constantly at the weekend and after work , during my lunch break .

Then about 2 weeks ago , his texts slowed down considerably . Don't get me wrong , he always without fail messages me a message in the morning and I always get a good night text . But nothing really in between anymore - maybe one or two during the day. This obviously sent my mind into a twirl like he'd gone off me etc and I was just very anxious .

He went on a business trip at the weekend and I still got my texts In the morning and night .. and I saw him on Monday and he was very happy to see me , and he's great and attentive in person.

Am I just overthinking this ? I'm just sitting here after work and he hasn't text me since lunch . Is he just comfortable that he doesn't need to text ? Or maybe it's that he is changing his mind ?

For context , I'm 27, he's 41.

Thanks guys x

Girly? Are you taking the piss? Jesus.

Grow up and act like the woman I hope you are. Or, alternatively, be a total doormat.

Yes I was taking the piss.

Your original amount of contact was never going to be sustainable. He probably realised he wasnt getting anything done. Spending every day together to start with seems a bit of a red flag- it gives you a false sense of knowledge of each other. I think he is right to cool it off a bit, and make things a little less intense. He is texting morning, sometime in the afternoon (lunch) and night. Plus he sees you a few times a week. Thats honestly more than a lot of people could bare (but I know it suits some people/is preferable) so I wouldnt try and push for more. Not many (non-dodgy) men or women will provide it.

You’re not allowed to say ‘girl’ on here unless it’s about children OP.

If you feel ok with how your conversation went, then give it some more time and see how you feel. If you still see each regularly then as pp have suggested it might just be a natural decline.

Sometimes it’s nicer to not text all day, as you have more to talk about when you do actually see each other. I know when me and DH have spent all day texting about everything thats happened that day, we just end up repeating the conversations that evening

Thanks for the positive replies - I appreciate it 😘