Not sure what to do was it his depression ruling his head?

[Unicornlover77]

I was dating my ex for around a year and thought we were strong and suddenly 4 weeks ago he dumped me by text and said he wasnt in love with me and never was after a petty argument!. Some background to this. We met last year and neither of us were looking for a relationship it just kind of happened both of us had been badly hurt i was in an abusive relationship and felt i couldnt trust anyone but he was different and i fell in love with him and we were happy so i thought. I knew he suffered depression as do I but we seemed to be perfect in my eyes. Then his father had a stroke and weeks later we found out cancer on the brain and lungs caused this and he died within 4 weeks of us finding out. I helped nurse his dad daily and he asked for my help and supported my partner throughout and was with him when he passed away at christmas. I did everything to support him i even collected his dads ashes as he couldn't face it. He became depressed and withdrawn and a bit cold towards me emotionally and physically he lost interest which i completely understood as he was mourning his dad. Things seemed to be getting better then suddenly he told me he didnt love me and i was to needy even though i was there at his request constantly and i can find someone who will treat me like i deserve to be treated and loved and he didnt want a relationship or intimacy with anyone at the minute and hes not even sure what the hell he wants in his head and needs space. As you can imagine its broke my heart im very much in love with him and adore him like mad and i dont know what i did wrong. But...now he cant stop texting me daily and wants to spend time with me and wants my help and advice and he texts me every day all day and even last week while he was in spain he spoke to me and text me as soon as he got off the plane and wanted to see me as soon as he got home and i stupidly went because i love him so much and he said he wants me in his life always. Hes also going off to Paris in a couple of weeks to sort out and run a new business and has to be there for two weeks and home for a week for the next 3 months and im so confused with what's going on with his feelings towards me as he obviously feels something but im scared to ask because i dont want to lose him completely. Could his depression have made him say those horrible things to me as ive never said a bad thing to him and we've had one fight in all that time and i dont know what to do as i dont want to be with anyone else but him. Will being patient make him realise what hes lost with me? Or am i fighting a losing battle. Help..

He's obviously been through a difficult time but he told you he didn't want a relationship and you should try to accept that. If you want to be with him then you need to ask him where he stands but be prepared to be told he doesn't want you to be his girlfriend. Probably best to just walk away

He's stringing you along because he has no idea what he wants but he knows he doesn't want to be committed to you and at the same time doesn't want you moving on. It's total mindfuckery and you should run.

He's leaning on you. But as soon as he feels better and more able to cope with life he'll meet someone else and wave you a cheery goodbye. After all , he's already told you he doesn't love you, so why would you complain?
Leave him to stand on his own two feet. I know you want to help him but you will destroy yourself.

OP he is grieving and doesn't know what he wants, but he does know that he doesn't want a relationship with you. He said this to you and ended your relationship, and regardless of all that's come after, he meant that.

You started off as his rebound relationship, and you then became his strongest support through a difficult time. He's naturally come to rely on your strength, which is why he's currently struggling to cope without you. But as PP have said, as soon as he's feeling stronger and meets someone else he'll drop you like a sack of shit.