What is his problem?

[stripesandspots10]

So I know this guy ive known him a while. We don't really know each other well but we know the same people.
We have matched on tinder a few times. We also follow each other on social media. Anyway when we match on tinder we have a chat and then he goes cold. We spoke on social media but he went cold again. Then I put up a post on social media and he private messaged me. Complements me and we chat again. This time I've asked him to do something rather than just texting. He seemed really keen and the conversation was flowing. Now the conversation is a struggle and he didn't even wish me a happy birthday. I wouldn't think that was much effort.

I'm considering cancelling the date. He put a post up that read "we are not scared to fall in love, but scared to be loved in return".

What is his problem? I'm confused? Should I just cancel the date and delete his number?

Look it shouldn't be this hard this soon! I wouldn't entertain this tbh and certainly wouldn't go on any dates, Imagine you slept with him and then he went cold? You will feel shit.

Cancel date, delete number and forget about him!

Tbh in your shoes I would do the date and then see. Some people come across as right bell ends online.

If he cancels or whatever I would move on and forget about this one who has had his card marked just by posting memes .

Some people are terrible at remembering to message back but absolutely great people IRL. I would give him one shot on a date and see how it goes.

Meh, one for the bin. Why waste your time and headspace on someone who isn't that interested?

A couple of days ago he did apologise and say how rubbish he had been with texting.
He does come across a bit shy and hard work so that's why I wanted to see him IRL but it is winding me up a bit. I need to know by Friday if the date is happening as we are doing an activity that needs 48 hrs cancellation.

People who post stuff like that are looking for attention, trying to lure people in. You’ll not be the only one he’s messaging, or who’s trying to figure him out and wondering what the memes mean for her. Guaranteed.

Do you think private? Interesting because he posted something else earlier and it must have been a friend put #attention #feedmyego
I did wonder

I like the sound of his friend Wish i had the balls to call people out on that shit.

Haha wish his friend could come speak to me and tell me what his problem is 😂
Ah well that's another guy down.

Anyone got any good places to meet a guy IRL? Getting sick of OLD

I’ve met many guys like this. At first I would try hard to work out what’s going on in their heads, now I know that when they cold it’s because they’re either toying with you whilst waiting for better, chasing/fucking someone else or feeding an addiction.

Jelly do you mean an addiction to the attention/mind games or actual substance/alcohol addiction? Because the latter combined, with the others you mentioned, is bang on the money in my experience.

This sounds way too hard work before you've even been on a date. Run.

Def run... sounds like a dick before you have even had a date!!! Doesn't bode well really

Op, all his chatting, then going cold, then appearing again and agreeing to a date, then posting an attention seeking statutory status, then being vague and leaving you wondering - all this is him on his BEST BEHAVIOUR. Right now, he's supposed to be trying to show you his best and most alluring and impressive side. And it's this.

Forget the date and consider it a bullet dodged. And I bet you that in a few weeks he'll pop up again, trying to chat, maybe even with some bullshit reasons about work being busy or a personal crisis, and try to reel you back in.

Ignore him. You can do better :)

Ahhh sigh
I swear I am attracted to the same type of idiots! I'm pulled in by their mysterious ways. When in actual fact they are just arseholes.
Think I'll cancel the date and try get my money back

jelly and private sorry just 're read your comment. Interesting these types of guys you have spoke to have an addiction.
A couple of things have worried me. He loves boxing which is fine on it's own. But I can see what posts he's liked and alot are football hooligan violence ones and fighting ones. Or aggressive dog looking postings. May be not an addiction but an obsession. Thinking about it now I'll be giving him a wide birth!!

"we are not scared to fall in love, but scared to be loved in return".

Oh please. Cancel the date. He's a twat -what is that even supposed to mean? Grill him on it if you fancy a laugh - 'Sorry, no, I don't understand your post - can you explain in more detail?

#memespouter #attentionbaby #nothingbetweentheears

the friend sounds far more of a laugh!

#nothingbetweentheears 😂 that did make me laugh fizzy
I swear he doesn't have a sense of humour. He's just good to look at.
Bit awkward considering he delivers my DM weekly food box! Ha!

Sounds like an attention seeking tit.

Give him a wide birth - relationships should be fun, not second guessing crap he has put on social media.

So......does anyone have some good advice for OLD? I'm Clearly not doing this right!