To have '0' friends

[MissusMuffinTop]

I have no friends.. don't get me wrong - I have acquaintances through my kids at school and toddler groups. I'm a nice person (I think) and reasonably sociable. We relocated here 3 years ago so new beginnings. As I grow older I'm understanding that people are fucking weird. Will I ever find a friend again?

Acquaintances are good...it's difficult with young children to have time to find friends...

As they grow a bit you will have time to get out and meet friends...

Some of our mums used to go to the coffee shop after mums and tots...I built up several relationships this way...and still call them friends but in a very casual way...

Do you not have friends from before you moved ? From school, from college or university or your first job? People you used to go out with before you met your dh? People you went out with after you became a couple ? People you were friends with from things you did (on your own or as a couple) before dc?

I’m in the same boat. I have two children with Sen. A lot of my life now is taken up with them so it’s hard. People are busy and have their own life and mine is very different.

I have zero friends. I can't cope with friendships, I find them an unnecessary stress.... the world is hard and weird enough already!

The difference between friends and acquaintances is the mental connection you have with a friend and the 'want' to spend time with them. If you're always around people who's only commonality is having had children at the same time then it's not unlikely you won't make any real friends. That's no reflection on you, just that you don't click with anybody among that random group of people.

Can you take up hobbies? Gym, dance classes, exercise classes, sport, language/art classes, book club, charity you believe in, political campaigning...

Identify what's interesting or fun to you and surround yourself with people who are similar. Then you'll click with someone. I have zero 'mum' friends, a few friendly acquaintances but no friends, however I easily pick up friends every time I am involved in something I enjoy or meet someone with similar interests. It's easy to bond when you share an interest with someone and have plenty to talk about but you have to get out there and find them.

You'll make friends again if you find you and work from there.

Of course you'll find friends again...but people are weird, so take it easy. I like the School of Life's take on it- you will only find the right kind of friends once you believe you don't need any.

Most people I know that don’t have many friends, aren’t the best listeners. Do you take interest in peoples lives, are you thoughtful, remember things they are doing, so next time you see them you can say “how did that event/appointment go?”
Do you go out of your way to be kind? And are you fun?

I have a few relatives that literally never ask how you are, never take in interest in other peoples lives, and are a bit moaning/grumpy. Unsurprisingly they don’t really have friends.

Not saying this is you OP, but are any of those characteristics familiar? I don’t think friendships have anything to do with looks, age, shared hobbies etc. I have friends of all ages of all types but they are people that are kind, that take an interest, that show they care.