After practically a lifetime of dating disastrously and with a lot of codependency I might have finally met someone decent.
We’ve known each other a long time, share the same group of friends and have socialised a lot together and in groups.
We’d both always been in relationships but I’ve been properly single a few months and he’s very newly single (just over a week).
He’s now told me he’s liked me for a long time and is making it clear he wants to pursue a relationship or something with me.
I really like him and could definitely fancy him but have never thought about it too deeply as we were both couples up.
We have loads in common, morally, politically, life goals, even our kids are the same age.
I’m v hesitatant, we’re meeting Saturday and I’m thinking of telling him to hold fire. Despite having been single a while I’ve only very recently got the last of my ex’es stuff out of my house, been through some huge career stuff and just about to take in a lodger.
I’m under a lot of stress and although he ticks all my boxes (I’m on a dating site too!) I’m just not feeling ready.
I like the idea of a summer just me and my kids, and then consider whether I want to get involved.
I know for a fact he’s decent and respects women, kind, sensitive etc and he would be good to have in our lives.
I do struggle with anxiety and wonder if I’m making excuses out of fear of it going wrong before it’s even started?
Our social life is tied up together and my relationship experiences have been so negative I don’t want to implode any friendship groups plus altho was never really friends with his ex, she and I are stil ‘friends’ on social media.
It was his decision to split, not hers, I’d hate to be partially responsible for hurting her.
Not really sure why I posted, maybe to get it off my chest!
Any thoughts gratefully received!