I didn't want my exs girlfriend to see or touch my child!

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Hi all

So basically my ex has posted a public video of his girlfriend poking and touching my son's face my baby is only 12 weeks old, he dumped me for her when I was 27 weeks pregnant, he said he would tell me when they were going to meet etc he's been lieing saying they haven't met eachother, I am just so angry about it all as personally you should wait atleast 6 months and to make sure it's a serious relationship before introducing your child to them, am I being unfair and am i within my rights to say something to him that I'm uncomfortable with it? Just find it so disrespectful to me as she is what split up our family , advice guys

I can see why you're upset about the public nature of the post but in reality, it sounds like she will be a part of his life. I really only think waiting to meet children matters if the children are older. A baby wouldn't know the difference.

She isn;t what split up your family. He is. Why the anger at her?

plain fact is that there is really nothing you can do about it, so try to accept and move on.

Hi OP, I completely get it, you are the Mum and I felt the same, don't let people tell you it's not normal to feel the way you do, it's absolutely normal, they should have respect for you and not throw it in your face, their shame x

I'd be incensed at anyone poking my 12 week old newborn in the face and would be beyond incensed at a video of my newborn being posted publicly. So I don't blame you OP. I think it is kind of hard to say to a new mother that she needs to get over or accept whatever a woman she neither likes not respects does to her baby. Maybe she does - seems like the dad can do what he likes during his time with this very new baby - but it will be hard for the mother to accept this - surely we can acknowledge that.

Can either parent post videos of a child on line without permission from the other?

I think the advice about introductions is to minimise confusion for a child being introduced to a succession of new short-term partners, and to take away the risk of a child forming a bond with someone who disappears.

Since your baby is only twelve weeks old I don't think that the above applies in the same way as it would with a young child, so if your primary concern is for your child then I don't think you need to worry. If the girlfriend disappears in three months, your baby won't care.

Obviously that doesn't take away from the fact that you are hurt by the introduction to your boyfriend's ow, or by the public nature of it, or by the fact he lied about it, or by the fact you'd asked him to delay them meeting out of sensitivity for your feelings.

The fact that he did that just proves that he is an utter shit, as his behaviour during your pregnancy had already suggested. You are well shot of him and now know you can't trust him to be honourable or truthful.

You can't do anything about it, anything at all, so do not give them the satisfaction of rising to the rather obvious public bait.

It’s reasonable to ask your ex to:

1. not lie to you.
2. not post pics/videos of your child on the internet
3. to not let people poke your baby in the Face.

That being said, he doesn’t have to listen to any of the above and you can’t stop his girlfriend seeing the baby if he sees it away from you.

I still stand by my original advice to you to think about changing the surname before it’s too late because this relationship is going to breakdown fairly soon by the sounds of it.

(I don’t think your ex will agreed to it being changed so it’s probably too late anyway but I’d still ask)

You can't stop her meeting your child or touching your child.
They are absolute twats for posting it online to rub your face in it tho