Is this normal? (Online Dating)

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I have been using online dating sites for a few months now, Tinder and Bumble, and I find that there's a few days or weeks of messages going back and forth, and it seems to be going well, but they just stop replying. Am I doing something wrong or is this normal?

My partner and I meant on okcupid. We chatted for a few weeks before meeting up. Would have been sooner if not for schedules

In my experience no site has any less legit people or less weirdos than any other. One thing to keep in mind... Folk looking for a one night stand are less likely to use a site where you pay like match for example.... Yes there are a lot of weirdos on pof but just because you met a guy on match doesn't mean he won't be a rapist \ paedophile or woman beater... You just have to keep your wits about you and keep your guard up especially if you have kids.

Totally agree with Trojan re the process. Definitely aim to meet within a week or so, once you've established a bit of rapport and done some due diligence (this is why you need their number as it's often linked to Facebook which is great for background checks!)

Slightly disagree with making the first move. I met my boyfriend on Tinder and it was me that sent the first message. I used to get so frustrated with people matching and never messaging that I would quite often send a chatty opener to get the ball rolling. It worked in my case so I accept it's not for everyone.

It is totally a numbers game, you'll look at thousands of profiles, be potentially interested in hundreds, match with 10s, go on a few dates, have a few short term things and then hopefully you'll meet the one! Just avoid chatting too long...it's far to easy to build up a fantasy and then when you finally meet them it's either a massive let down or you keep things going for longer than you should because of the "relationship" you've built up via messaging.

Everyone’s experience is different.
I didn’t find paid for = better.
I’m in London found the caliber of men on match.com was dire. They couldn’t spell, very poorly educated. the one date I agreed to go on turned up in a stained and crumpled shirt
Any half decent guy had his absolute pick as the “competition” was very very low. I had much better luck on tinder