Hi, I posted on here recently about my relationship with my STBXH. We are into our second year of separation and the children have adjusted really well, they are 16 and 13.
About a month ago, my ex and I had a talk about divorce and it led to a heart to heart where he suggested maybe trying again. I didn’t commit fully to this, as I think we have both changed in our time apart ( he was sometimes emotionally abusive too) so I was wary.
In the following weeks I did go to dinner with him and the kids which I now think wasn’t a good idea as I think it gave false pretences. I now know I definitely don’t want to go back as he has been very short tempered in a couple of conversations we’ve had and I see the old problems are still there.
How do I tell my children that we are definitely staying apart for good? I know they are old enough to understand but I feel I misled them slightly and feel terrible.
How can I broach it?