Last night my husband and I were having sex, when he stopped mid way through and said he just wasn't in the mood. I was surprised as normally he is always up for it, and after some talking he said he felt that we were in a bit of a rut. Initially I was hurt, but on reflection he is right. During the week sex can feel like a chore, and although it's always good, I don't always go into it feeling particularly bothered, which I'm sure he picks up on. On a Friday night if we have no plans we have a few glasses of wine, get tipsy and have passionate, uninhibited sex. We don't have a drinking problem, but we are starting to rely on alcohol to get in the mood and really enjoy ourselves in bed.
It hasn't always been like this. We've been together for 15 years, and even after the birth of our child, we managed to get back to a happy, fun sex life after a few months. It's only really the last 6 months or so that it's become like this. I love him so much, he is a good man, husband and father. I still think he's gorgeous and we have a lot of fun together outside of the bedroom. I just worry that this is the beginning of the end of our relationship - sex is important to us, and especially him (higher sex drive) so I fear if we can't change things that our marriage may be irreparable- or that we will never get the spark back. Has anyone else been through this with their partner and managed to get the spark back? Any tips to help us find the passion again would also be greatly appreciated!