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Tested positive for a STI

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 10/04/2018 19:10

Hi. After my husband left I went to the sexual health clinic and got tested. Turns out I've tested positive for gonnorhea of the throat. One test positive, one negative but they want me back for treatment. He's denying it off course but there's a big history of lying. As I've never been unfaithful and we were tested at the beginning of our relationship 10 years ago this could only have came from him. Anyone any ideas on how common false positives are and where the heck to I go from here.?

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StarlightSparkle · 10/04/2018 19:45

I don’t know if false positives are possible but it seems much more likely your husband gave it to you, especially if he’s a known liar. I’m sorry.

AnyFucker · 10/04/2018 19:48

Where to go from here ? .... get the antibiotics and cut him out of your life.

TinDogTavern · 10/04/2018 19:57

AnyFucker nails it, as usual. I’m sorry this has happened, get treated and lose this lying asshat from your life.

PrinceButthole · 10/04/2018 20:01

Where to go? Personally I'd email anyone I think he's sleeping with and let them know. Scuzzy bastard. Hope you're OK

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 10/04/2018 20:09

I'm going back to the clinic dont worry. Shall be taking the test again and taking the antibiotics too. No way is husband coming back after this one.

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NotTheFordType · 11/04/2018 23:44

Have you recently experienced a severe sore throat which took time to clear (or has never cleared completely)? If so, that's likely to be when you got infected.

If you've been asymptomatic then it's less clear, but if you've not had oral sex with anyone apart from your H in the last 3 years then it's unlikely to be from anywhere else.

For most strains of oral gonorrhoea the appointment will take about an hour. They'll ask you how many partners you've had In the last 3 months. They'll ask you not have unprotected oral until you've been retested.

IME the nurse will make a big fucking deal about how the injection part of the antibiotic can be painful. It was about as painful as getting my 3 monthly depo injection, ie not at all. You also get to take a shitload of oral antibiotics, but it's all done on one visit, you don't have to take any away with you.

stitchbitch · 12/04/2018 00:19

No to a false positive, never heard of one. (I work in SH). The injection is actually quite painful for some people. Good luck OP x

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 12/04/2018 17:39

Went for the retest. Took the treatment (4 tablets and a shot in the bum, which was OK) as I have planned surgery soon and don't want to get it cancelled for having something.

I've had no symptoms but did give oral sex the day he visited his lady friend (obviously unbeknown to me).

Mentally I feel pretty fragile right now. Having to cope with these results, the breakup, money and the kids. I just need a break.

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pudding21 · 12/04/2018 17:50

Sorry you have had this stress, what an absolute fucking c**t.

Joy69 · 12/04/2018 18:00

Thank goodness you went to the clinic. Traumatic going, but the staff in those places are so nice.
No advice, but just to say you will be ok, and to offer a virtual hug x

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 29/04/2018 08:28

Update. Frustratingly my second test came back the same as the first. Inconclusive. I now have to go back for a third test to see if whatever I do/do not have is still there after receiving anti biotic treatment.

Husband (ex) has agreed to get tested as he has been my only partner for the last 11 years. But I'm going to have to rely on him to tell me the results he gets.

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Psychobabble123 · 29/04/2018 08:43

Husband (ex) has agreed to get tested as he has been my only partner for the last 11 years. But I'm going to have to rely on him to tell me the results he gets

Oh OP, you really don't. He's cheated and you know he has. You need nothing more from him ever again. Follow up your treatment, move out and start moving on.

I'm sorry he's done this to you.

Whyareallmensuchfuckingscum · 29/04/2018 09:25

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, what an absolute shit!

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 29/04/2018 09:56

He's already moved out. I'd just prefer a definative answer. Unlikely now. Hopefully my next test will be clear. And he has left it quite some time without treatment 🤔

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CanIBuffalo · 29/04/2018 10:00

I hope he's riddled with it and his dick shrivels up and drops off.
for you.

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 24/05/2018 15:15

3 tests returned inconclusive, 1 lost by the clinic, 2 courses of treatment and still waiting to hear back that the final test they’ve taken is clear. What a fuckon.

Ex had the same result as me but had not been quite so vigorous in perusing the matter (his problem).

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Granville72 · 24/05/2018 17:37

Fingers crossed you get a good result this time

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Sickandtiredofthisshit · 07/09/2018 22:24

I thought I’d update in case anyone found themselves in a similar position.

Eventually I found out after about 6 different tests my body reacts positively to the gonnorhea test but it took a team of consultants to agree that this was the case.

So much, much worrying for nothing.

Later I did find out that my husband had lied about ever going and thus lied about his own inconclusive result so if anyone IS in a similar position I’d say don’t rely on a partner telling you the truth.

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