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Insecure

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justwishiwasnormal · 10/04/2018 07:25

So I'm a really insecure person. I think I'm like this in general but it's in relationships where it presents itself the most. I know I am and I k ow my thoughts are irrational so my question is how do I change? It's to the extent where I'll think my OH has gone off me if he doesn't send his the usual text messages or the emojis he normally sends, if there are extra long gaps in messages, if I see he's been online but not messaged me, if he doesn't tell me he loves me, if he cancels dates (always with a justifiable reason) etc. Before people be mean and tell me I'm ridiculous, I know I am..... that's why I started this post!! I hate my irrational thoughts. I rarely say anything to my OH about my thoughts because I know they are irrational and would drive him away!! I know why I am like this (attachment issues from previous relationship) so my question is how do I change?

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fuddle · 10/04/2018 09:16

You have to work on your self esteem. You build it up and so if your partner did leave you, yes you'd be devastated but you'd move on. You have a poor self image. Lots of books out there.

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