DH being a total prick since I got promoted.

[Reythelastjedi]

Has anyone else had this? I've always worked but have never matched DH's income. Still don't but have managed to land a quite senior position. DH is clearly peed off having been passed over for promotion several times and seems to think I don't deserve this opportunity.
Not sure what I'm asking really, do I just need him to grow up and stop being a dick.

Tell him to stop being a prick! Jealousy is a massively ugly thing - and he should be thrilled and proud of you, not pissing on your bonfire. What kind of a partner is pissed off at you getting promoted?

Yes! He lightened up when I took him for a drive in my new car

In all honesty I had to sit him down and have a chat about how he came across, I don't think he realised he was being a prick.

Its the alpha male in him making him feel threatened. Sit down and explain its not on. Its a relationship not a competition. You are both supposed to benefit from each other not undermine.

Have you sat down and spoken to him about it? Its really not ok to rain on your promotion parade or claim you don't deserve it.

Is it possible he doesn't realise how negative he is being or is this a deliberate attempt to "bring you down a peg or two" now that you've managed to progress?

Short term I'd be trying to talk about his behaviour, make clear that it's not ok and about his feelings about his own career. Long term I'd be quite clear - a relationship means supporting each other and building each other up and his being a dick isn't something I'd put up with for much longer if he didn't agree.

Good for you tell him he can look after the babies

Yup. He needs to stop being a dick.

But word of warning - I always earned more than my ex and in the end I think it killed our relationship. He would never have voiced it but thats what did it. Hurt his male pride.

He actually said that you don't deserve the promotion?? What a horrible thing to say to someone, he sounds awful. He should be proud of you and uplift you.
Congratulations on the promotion, and good luck for your future. X

Could be his own attitude is why he is getting passed over for promotions.
He needs to get over himself and grow up. Having bollocks isn’t an entitlement to promotion.

Thank you all. It may be the beginning of the end but I'm not apologising or feeling bad for my opportunity. I deserve this.

Congratulations!

My ex was very snippy about me getting a better job than I’d had before, it made our lives easier as I was earning more but he chose not to be happy for me and made a lot of comments about how lucky I had it, how easy the work was for the money, how much harder his job was, how much worse his boss was, it was endless.

Turned out to be another in a long line of things to beat me with and it was hugely unattractive.

Congratulations! Don't feel bad for a second. His behaviour is childish at best, twatish at worst. A partner should be proud of your achievements.

My DH was overlooked for a promotion and a year later I got a new job which has a lot of potential to make my career sky rocket. He has not stopped telling me how proud he is and doing everything he can to support me. We also work for the same organisation. That's how a husband should behave

I would just tell him to stop being a bellend or you will LTB

He's being an unsupportive dick
Ltb