Has anyone *actually* just disappeared?

[StormcloakNord]

This isn't a TAAT, but it's inspired by one. Hoping it can stay up.

Quite often on the threads on here when people are moaning about their partners taking what they do for granted/not helping etc a piece of advice given is to just up and leave for a while. Throw the kids at the offending partner and leave them to fend for themselves for x amount of days.

I just want to know if anyone has actually done this and it's received the desired effect? I think it's a great piece of advice but rarely see people following through with it and doing it?!

I've been sent overseas twice for work for 2 weeks at a time.
The change in attitude on my return was a dramatic improvement.

It's extended our relationship by several years althiugh the thought that he was always capable of being like this but wasn't for 5 solid years still niggles at me.

He was always good at housework but non existent on childcare/shopping/life admin/cooking. And he thought that doing the laundry and washing up meant he was doing everything cos he had no idea how much time and mental effort the rest took on top of a full time job.

There's no further suggestions that I'm not pulling my weight now. He does occasional shopping(he's gobsmacked by how much food costs and has stopped demanding that he 'review the shopping budget'), occasional cooking ( and no longer DEMANDS a hot cooked meal every night of the week and a full roast on sun ), occasional school & activity pickups and drop offs.
He's taken over selling (his own) house, paying bills, arranging new heaters fitting.

Admittedly I did also start responding with 'sure' when he said things like 'we should investigate getting a new heater', meaning you do all the research, budget, negotiate, purchase, arrange delivery and fitting and decide where it should go. Two years later, he got off his arse and did it himself. Same with new phone purchase, cable tv contract. Basically if he wants it he can sort it himself.

I would genuinely recommend it to anyone. But do it sooner than I did. I was at the point of leaving before I pushed back and I'm not sure I'll get the respect for him back.
He'll be pre-trained for his next partner tho.

Well yes in that I actually left him. His complete domestic slobbishness/selfishness/laziness etc were only a part of the reason I left, but only months later he was acknowledging and apologising for his slobbishness/selfishness/laziness etc. We shared care of the DCs, so he had no choice but to get his act together - and he's always, underneath it all, been a good bloke (we're still good friends years later, both remarried etc) - he just took me entirely for granted.

This guy did...

www.askamanager.org/2017/08/i-ghosted-my-ex-and-shes-about-to-be-my-new-boss.html

As you can see it didn’t pan out brilliantly

It’s not quite the same but it’s a jaw dropping read