Coffee with my ex an dad of our son

[Olilou01]

Emails from ex an dad to our son . After son kicked off at him an his wifes house. Long story short. Son dnt like going there to his because of wife.
Son punched dad threw things avt at thiers etc.
Son at mine now an dad been kicked out of hers or left her an staying at brothers. Email from ex asking to call him n chat. During call he was drunk an he talked abt stuff we did an how our son is affected by situ.

But stuff he said got me wondering. Like we knw eachother well. Ten yrs etc but he repeated an said intimately. He said stuff like if we had gotten on we still b together. He said meet me for coffee to chat abt son behaviour i kept saying no an tried calling him out on the email address which wasnt one he normally used. I told him meeting will annoy her an i dnt want hassle frm her .

I had two massive court cases last yr an he said i wish i was there for u going through it .
Anyway long story short i said not meeting til i knw u not with her. I think i looked respectable. I didnt like her doing it to me when he cheated an left us for her. Shes deluded an now to point his own mother wont speak to him cause wife barred her frm thier house.

Y would he want to meet up an chat. Like i told him. Same things will b sorted by phone. Whats diff by meeting. Apart from phone bill

He said meeting up dnt need to b knwn to his wife. Keep it between us. An said i want to sort out u me an lil one. I said theres no me u n lil one. Its me n lil one n u an lil one at urs with her ..

Some one tell me whats what here. Ive only ever had him as a live in prop boyfriend n it lsted 11yrs an a kid.

Ive had others but not how we were .

What shall i do

They have plans. Holiday to portugal. In few montgs. He said she can pay it herself . He calls me when stuff gets shit an she kicks him out. I dnt normally bother with this but this time he wants to meet an adimant abt it. I said il meet bit in my time. Not cause they rowed abt our son. Am i reading to much into this.

Typos cause late in dark an tired bit cant sleep from the talk. I stupidly told him i loved him an was still in love with him. But im not to the poibt where id wanna b with him again. Not now he has ankther kid in tow an its hers. I should add his wife n him have harrassment orders on them by me cause of 6 yrs of shit from them both. So he knws changing an email address to contact is breaking the order.

He cheated on you with her, is now trying to cheat on her with you and throughout your posts it doesn't appear that he gives a shit about your son.

Your son is your first priority here, he's obviously struggling. Ignore the arsehole ex as best you can and move on.

You say you've had six years of shit from him and harassment orders against him, yet you're saying you love him and are thinking of taking him back? Why??? He's just been kicked out of his house and you're the easiest option. He didn't leave her.

Keep this on a joint parenting only basis and put your energy into helping your son. He sounds like he needs it.

You say you've had six years of shit from him and harassment orders against him, yet you're saying you love him and are thinking of taking him back? Why??? He's just been kicked out of his house and you're the easiest option. He didn't leave her.

Keep this on a joint parenting only basis and put your energy into helping your son. He sounds like he needs it.

He said meeting up dnt need to b knwn to his wife.

Well yes, men rarely tell their partners "off to try to get into my ex's knickers, don't wait up babe!"

Ive no intention of getting back with. But somethings niggling at me to meet to find out if this what it was. U knw 1 last stand off an walk away knowing he still wants me. An am i bad for thinking meeting him would b pay back when she find out for her. My son is my priority. But i cant help wonder the ifs an buts. Only me an him knw abt convo last night. My mobile rang at 736 this morn three rinvs an hung on private number. Its eithrr him or her. There is no end to the bull they give me. He kept saying we were mates an close 4 ten yrs. The we knew eachother intimately got me. He has never said that since left.

It won't be you walking off into the sunset after a last shag thinking 'he still wants me, that'll teach them'. It'll be him thinking 'that was bloody easy, I've got a shag there anytime I want one with no effort and commitment'.

Of course he's suddenly say things about intimacy etc, he's angling for a shag and an ego boost. He's not stupid enough to actually be truthful.

Don't be a mug. This is not a path to pay back, it is a path to heartbreak, confusion and feeling used!

He is insulting you.

They have had a spat so you are backup.

Don't entertain it.

What if i meant meet up an let him pour out his heart abt his mistake. An walk away knowing he wants what he messed up back. Ive waited on the day his life crashes an burns an he said if it never worked out with her we stay mates an he be back on my doorstep. But it did an he married an had a kid. I told him i am the stronger one an his wife needs a man an u now knw u messed up with the one who can go it alone.. i really wanna meet to face off what i knw in my heart is true. He mentioned how much he loved my brother as ge died just soon after we split. He was saying he wished he was in court with me by my side . It dnt make sese hearing it all.

It makes perfect sense. He's fallen out with her, and chancing it with you. He's suddenly saying all the meaningful deep intimate things to you because you obviously want to hear that he make a mistake SIX years ago and it was really you he wanted all along. He says the right things, you fall on his cock feeling like you've won. And it looks like it's working unfortunately.

Don't meet him. He cheated on you with her. She's kicked off because of your son .. leave him to it.

Ok so putting all the above aside. Emails still ask8ng to meet. But if it really is abt lil one kicking off at his. Soneone explain y i need to meet him to sort this out. Either its him mailing or her. Either way they or him are sure meeting for a chat face ro face will sort this out. I can not get my head around y in person . Am i wrong in what i say?. What can be sorted in person that cant b by mail or phone calls. Y do they both or him want face to face. Never wanted it before. I knw son hit his dad an told him home truths but its not first time he kicked off. Yeah its first time he hit his dad. But end of it i cant understand y his dad cant see that by saying ur staying another night an my son reacted so badly. Y cant it get into his dads head son dnt like his wife. An its come down to his reaction an words to dad. But it wont sink in. Its me apaz feeding him shit but i told him he is 2 yrs off high achool. He aint a toddler u can manipulate a situ to b how u want him to see it. He seeing u an her gang up on him. U siding with her. Shes even taken to saying my son is attacking her three yr old. When he told me he vrushed his hair to say gi an she flipped just at him touching him.. nothings gonna change cause he is with her. Im not jelous i just want peace an i dobe everythung to block emails they change addresses an mail. Block numbers they do same. Harrassment orders they dnt listen to. How can i get over all this 6 yrs of hell . Sit an chat when all i can think of is lunging over the table to grab him by tgroat an shake him to see sense.