So finally called the police and had abusive H removed what happens next?

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I am shaking and nervous but I finally feel like there's a chance I'll be able to go back to being myself, be the mother I want to be, rather than the puddle of nerves I've become wondering what I or the children are going to do to upset him. They've taken him away and he'll be charged, bailed and prevented from contacting me apparently. It wasn't physical violence it was emotional abuse but I'm so scared of him. The house is locked up and the dc are sleeping. A bit of me wants to drink a glass of wine and actually tap dance around as a reward for finally taking that first step, for saying actually that's not ok. The rest of me is wondering what happens next, what steps should I take, what should I be doing. Would love any advice I don't really have anyone in real life as I've cut myself off and only really have surface friendships with the mummy crowd as I am so ashamed and nervous all the time. I do bright and breezy very well though, I do wonder who has noticed/ guessed.

Op ask for a police marker on your address. If he turns up you can call 999 and not even have to say anything.
I've been where you are except I did have photo graphic proof, he still walked away with no further action.

You have done the right thing though

I don't have any advice but want to say well done. You're a strong woman looking after your kids, and I admire you

He doesn't have keys. The doors have glass panels though and lock with a twisty thing from inside so wouldn't be hard for someone determined to come in.

He does run his business from the outbuilding still my property though, which I assume complicates everything. Argh it's so unnecessary it isn't hard to get through a day without shouting/ threatening/ calling people names. Billions of people do it everyday. Still his circus; his monkeys.

Those twisty locks can be easily changed for a normal barrel type - about £20 and you should beable to do it yourself with a screwdriver

Spoke to womensaid have got the contact details of local people to help it's so hard to talk about without bursting into tears. I wish I was stronger.

You may feel tearful, but you are in fact being incredibly strong.